Medically Unexplained Syndromes (MUS)
Being very common, MUS-patients need recognition of their suffering, a good relationship with their physicians and others, a sense of control and a proper action plan. Needed foremost towards this is a realistic understanding of mind=body wholeness. [This text is the result of a small literature research by me in top medical journals. This is Read the full article…
Addiction: in Search of Deeper Meaning
Always. Behind every addiction lies deeper meaning. Its power comes from its deeper meaning, which is intrinsically bound to the addicted person himself. However, its form is alien. This way, the addicted person is very much trapped… by himself. This presupposes internal dissociation. A more dissociated person is thus probably more prone to addiction. [see: Read the full article…
Suggestion: Communication to the Subconscious
Subconscious mental processing is organic, not mechanical. Therefore it changes in a positive way through growth. Growth needs direction and freedom, a combination that is only possible through (auto)suggestion. Conceptual communication is very, well…, concept-based. It is communication with clear and distinct concepts. That’s not bad in itself. In many domains, there is no direct Read the full article…
Symbols and Signs
A sign is horizontal. A symbol is vertical. There is a lot of confusion about this. A traffic light is a sign. If the light is red, you know what that sign-ifies. A sign is always simple: A points to B. A à B In the mind, A is the mental concept that we can Read the full article…
G.I.M.O.: AURELIS Action Planning
G.I.M.O. – Goals, Insights, Motivations, Obstacles – is an AURELIS tool to be used within every single coaching event. It is also the formalization of AURELIS action planning in general, in this specific sequence. Please also read [see: ” G.I.M.O.“]. Quite dynamic This is why I call it ‘action planning’ instead of ‘action plan’. In Read the full article…
A Disease is a Continuum, Not an Entity
Medical textbooks generally list diseases as crisp entities. This may be OK in a book, providing exemplars of reality. However, real reality is different. This has several far-reaching consequences. To be or not to be? Many diseases – if not all – are not binary conditions. To be or not to be, is not the Read the full article…
Jesus = Compassion
This is an example of what can be found in any worthwhile religion. He – he – Him – him Since it transcends the conceptual, I can write He and Him as well as he and him. I know he wouldn’t mind either. I leave the capitals now mainly for the sake of those who Read the full article…
When a Man Loves a Woman
… he wants to make her mentally grow. Talkin’ about real men. No ‘change’ This does not entail the desire to change her into a different person. Growth is not about being changed. It is precisely about being respected entirely as one is. Obviously, it’s also not about staying the same. [see: “Growth“] There is Read the full article…
The Good Ritual
What constitutes the concrete appearance of a ‘good ritual’? According to me, the answer lies more in the deeper ‘why’ and in the deeper ‘how’ of the ‘what’ than in the ‘what’ itself. [please first read: ‘Rituals’] In religion(s), rituals mostly grow quite organically. What if one would want to ‘make’ a new ritual to Read the full article…
Erotic Desire
This is an idealistic picture, kind of what can be, therefore, not what is or should be. Let’s stay human. Also, let’s desire something more than the usual. You might even attain it. Erotic desire is the desire to unify profoundly. Sex may be involved. Without sex in the strict sense, erotic desire tends to Read the full article…
Erotic Fantasy
This is not about any specific content. It’s about how to personally relate to that content, which should above all be content that relates to you. People should be free as to the content of any private imagination. It’s only by being free that you can get to know yourself, including your deeper self. Otherwise, Read the full article…
A Symbol Is Always YOU
Symbolism is always vertical, a communication between conceptual and subconceptual. In this sense, it is always about YOU. [see also: ‘Symbolism lost. Symbolism regained.’] ‘Vertical’? As in this drawing, showing the difference between an analogy (concept-to-concept) and a symbol: Eventually, it’s about you as a total person, body and mind, conceptual [see: ‘About Concepts’] and Read the full article…
Imagine: an AURELIS Future
Or give it any other name. It’s about concepts. At the most abstract level: a synthesis of rationality and depth, both as much as possible. [see: ‘AURELIS USP: ‘100% Rationality, 100% Depth’] Are you in for a culture shock? Indeed. If ‘AURELIS’ will happen, it will provoke a different culture, worldwide. The best way to Read the full article…
Inner Dissociation is NEVER OK
According to me, one can appropriately say that dissociation – that is: the absence of integration – is THE cause of human-concocted ‘evil’. [see: ‘Cause of All Suffering: Dissociation’] So, it’s never OK to say ‘OK’ to this. There is a responsibility of any well-thinking human being to oppose dissociation. Mind: not opposing ‘dissociated people’ Read the full article…
A Leader Should Do What He Likes
A leader should be happy at his job. This is important to the organization, also as a matter of efficiency. An unhappy leader will not optimize the organization. It’s also a matter of self-efficacy. As a leader, you should be convinced that you do your job very well. This way you can authentically lead and Read the full article…
A Problem with ZEN
Nearing the end of WW-II, Zen was a substantial driving force behind the kamikaze: suicide pilots who in droves rammed into the US Army. (There is of course not one kind of ‘meditation’. There are many, which are very different from each other.) 7500 kamikaze pilots flying towards death and destruction Doesn’t sound very ‘Zen’? Read the full article…
No Rationality without Poetry
Rationality without poetry (‘depth’) is meaningless. Moreover: it’s not even rational. Thus, better call it ‘rationality’ (between brackets). [see: ‘AURELIS USP: ‘100% Rationality, 100% Depth’] Rationality is not only about concepts Of course, conceptual thinking is of huge importance. No doubt. However, through correct conceptual thinking, one can arrive at its own limits: 100% conceptual Read the full article…