Beyond Grand Narratives
Since immemorable times, people have been going from one grand narrative towards another. Now we are losing them entirely, opening the path towards ‘beyond.’ (Level of difficulty of this text: 3.5/5) A grand narrative is a bunch of stories that fit into a grand scheme. It brings an ideal, a shared purpose ― a comfortable Read the full article…
Ethical Leadership is Open
Openness to the full human being is the one characteristic that makes leadership transcend management or bossiness. It is ethical to the core. Full human being At any time, an individual is consciously aware of a tiny part of what meaningfully goes on in his mind/brain at the mental-neuronal pattern level. Meanwhile, the other – immensely Read the full article…
Gender Equivalidity
People can be deemed equal in worth without any bit of need to adhere to one mold. Crucial is value, not sameness. Gender equality? Men and women are not equal at the outside, nor at the inside ― least of all at the mental side. Therefore, the term gender equality sounds forced. The more one Read the full article…
Sea of Faith
It’s an excellent idea, all religions coming together in a sea of faith. For someone outside of any organized religion, this may feel like coming home for oneself and everyone else. It didn’t work out in the past. On several occasions, in places as remote from each other as the Netherlands and India, attempts have Read the full article…
Unity, Globally
L’union fait la force ― Unity brings power. ‘Strong Together’ or ‘America First’? There is a challenge in the concept of unity that doesn’t speak directly from such slogans, yet this challenge is crucial to our future (together). Global unity grows at the individual level. In unity we thrive. The human being is a social Read the full article…
AURELIS Syllabus
This category contains blog texts that form one part of the AURELIS course towards becoming an AURELIS coach. You find all of them also under other categories. This is necessary background information. Please read (some of) them if you are interested in becoming an AURELIS coach. There will be more in due time. A certified Read the full article…
AURELIS Coaching for Coaches
Please read this before going to any AURELIS coaching techniques. These are poetic rather than prosaic. Therefore, if you read them in two dimensions, you may be left empty-handed. By clicking here, you find an increasing number of ►►► AURELIS coaching techniques. Of course, you may use these techniques as you like. However, to really Read the full article…
Depth by Invitation
Indeed, by invitation only. One cannot coerce depth as one can superficiality. What is ‘depth’? One can invite, and invite, and invite. Eventually, a genuine invitation is always at first an invitation of the self, a self-invitation, like giving a suggestion to yourself ― an auto-suggestion, of course. That didn’t take long, did it? Even Read the full article…
Putting Yourself inside the Coachee
It is not the intention that anyone is or will become an expert in this in the short term. It is, however, a kind of objective that one can and should keep before oneself, with every consultation anew. ►►► AURELIS Coaching for Coaches (read this first) What is it not about? It is not about Read the full article…
Whose Identity are You?
Who needs to gain an identity by being identical? I guess nobody should. No group deserves respect if that respect is not passed on to individuals. Identity politics “A political approach wherein people of a particular gender, religion, race, social background, social class or other identifying factors, develop political agendas that are based upon these Read the full article…
Socrates was an AURELIS Coach?
Socrates’ method, which we currently call the ‘Socratic method’, consisted in leading the questioner to the solution of a question by means of a good alternation of open and closed questions. ►►► AURELIS Coaching for Coaches (read this first) Socrates did not just offer the solution. He did his best to let it come out Read the full article…
The Sun Always Shines
This is a very deeply ingrained attitude of “it’s always OK”. ►►► AURELIS Coaching for Coaches (read this first) So deeply ingrained that it can look very different on the surface. You’re a bit grumpy or even having a contrarian day… and yet the background, the color scheme on which everything takes place, is completely Read the full article…
Religious Belief Revisited
This is about any religious belief, credence, or denomination from any time and place. What does the girl in the image (Muslim or Catholic) think of this text’s title? Nothing religious without depth Anything purely conceptual – clear characteristics, crisp boundaries from other concepts – can be crystal clear but cannot have human depth since Read the full article…
Rape = Body. Making Love = Body and Soul.
About the infinity between making love and the absence of rape. What makes a rape a rape? Of course, this is a sensitive question. An even more sensitive, related issue: Are the borders of rape clear or fuzzy? One would like them to be crystal clear, but that may be wishful thinking. When the woman Read the full article…
Waiting at the Opening
Keep opening and waiting. ►►► AURELIS Coaching for Coaches (read this first) Suppose you know which insight can help the coachee move forward. OK. However, if that insight does not come from the coachee himself, it is practically non-existent for him/her, even if you bring it. Then it can be informative (for the coachee) but Read the full article…
Dynamics of Attention
►►► AURELIS Coaching for Coaches (read this first) An AURELIS coach is not a saint and realizes this. it is not possible to always listen in full, deep attention to what the coachee is saying. Nor is it necessary. It is even questionable whether it is desirable. The coachee might feel enclosed, threatened even by Read the full article…
Silence of Coaching
Silence is the space in which you let the coachee be himself. ►►► AURELIS Coaching for Coaches (read this first) Working with silence becomes very interesting when the silence works through you. Of course, the use in itself of silences can only be a technique. When it becomes part of a balancing act of which Read the full article…