When to Cherish Your Symptoms
Mental and physical symptoms may carry crucially meaningful information. Getting to these is the gift you get for cherishing your symptoms. Not listening may lead to worse This isn’t always easy to investigate in experimental science, especially with chronic symptoms. With present-day scientific methods, it may even be difficult to investigate. On the other hand, Read the full article…
Compassion and Equanimity
Compassion and equanimity: two complex concepts that belong together in-depth. Compassion is a kind of positive empathy. Not: getting carried away in other people’s feelings, but: having and showing attention for them => feeling those feelings like the waves on a deep ocean and then inviting the others to go deeper with you. Emotions are Read the full article…
Don’t Try ‘Here’ to be ‘There.’
Breaking out of mere-ego without leaving mere-ego… Oh, dear. The flower bud that absolutely wants to be an open flower, but cannot let go of the top of the flower bud. Oh, dear. This tension can grow very high. ‘h3ere’ trying to be ‘there,’ and at the same time trying to take ‘here’ with you, Read the full article…
AURELIS and Friendliness
AURELIS seems like a very friendly way to treat yourself and others… and rest assured, it is. But: not simply. ‘Friendly’ does not mean that you satisfy others in the most convenient way no matter what. That would be kind to the ego, but not to the deeper self. And that is precisely the opposite of Read the full article…
Speak to Ego and You Form Ego
Ego is locked in itself, in the ‘prison’ that it is itself. It seems like you need to free something from itself, but you can’t. Address total self, and you’ll form total self. It can be very annoying if you want to speak/act/be from your total self and people talk to you repeatedly as if Read the full article…
Problem -> Goal -> Cause -> Being There
Not all simple things are interesting, but all interesting things are easy to express in words. Such as: • What’s the problem? -> What’s the goal? • What is the deeper purpose? • What is the cause of this deeper purpose? Why do you want that? • Be there. In the case of superficial goals, it is not so interesting to Read the full article…
Lightbulbs and Human Energy
Please read first [see: “Dimming the Lightbulbs“] You can also view the image of the lightbulbs from a different angle. That is: the underlying glow of the lights is ‘human energy,’ or motivation, deeper and deeper as you enter a more meaningful and vague domain Where does the ‘glow’ ultimately come from? You may say: Read the full article…
Dimming the Lightbulbs
Imagine a large number of tiny lights as a kind of lightbulbs scattered in a room. These lights represent the purely conceptual thoughts in a person’s mental landscape. This is conceptual thinking that also thinks about itself in a similarly conceptual way. In other words, this is ego-minded consciousness. Also, imagine gleams behind the bulbs (or Read the full article…
About ‘Now’ during an AURELIS Session
This is important each time someone uses an AURELIS session. At the same time, it’s something for the ‘advanced’ user. For one person, it is easy to swoop in; for the other, it is a job of thinking, feeling, perceiving for a while. Of course, you can do AURELIS sessions with a specific purpose in mind. Read the full article…
Mindfulness, Lights and Glow
One can understand ‘mindfulness’ in two different ways, which are distinguishable from each other in the metaphor of the ‘lights’ and the ‘behind the glow.’ These two ways are even opposed at this critical point, although they are two poles that also flow into each other. • mindfulness with primary attention to the lights The underlying Read the full article…
AURELIS & Expansion of Consciousness
The term ‘consciousness expansion’ is peculiar in many ways. How can consciousness be expanded? What does this ‘broad-minded’ mean? Is this mainly a feeling, or is it much more than that? [see: “Expansion of Consciousness“] AURELIS skill Expanding consciousness in all openness, kindness, and compassion, soft, firm, and realistic, in full acceptance of who you are and who Read the full article…
AURELIS = YOU as a Total Person
Suppose someone comes to you, and it turns out that he has not heard or thought much about the ‘non-conscious’. Then it is important to outline this as part of the ‘environment within which AURELIS works.’ The following is an example of a text as understandable as possible, just straightforward, that could be used in this Read the full article…
Coaching Note on Communication
To communicate = everything at once. Any division is artificial. Give people what they really want in your communications. In other words, try to get the colorit and respond to that, instead of responding to what you think the person might feel or might need on the surface. In the human painting, the colorit is Read the full article…
Somatisation and De-Somatisation
The movement from that which shows itself somatically to the same that now shows itself mentally. People can ‘feel with their bodies’ = somatization. This also means that if (physical) symptoms are loosened, people may become aware of feelings more psychologically. This gives the impression that these feelings are appearing only now, but they were Read the full article…
Psychotherapy towards What?
The question is generally not being asked. The result is that we generally don’t know much about the importance of the answer. Please also read [see: “Is Short-Term Enough in Therapy?“] Psychotherapy generally takes the mend-that-what-is-broken model This has been taken from medicine, which took it from physics. In healthcare, this is the disease model. Read the full article…
Banned from the ‘Garden of Eden’
EVERY feeling of ‘being sinful’ is the translation of a feeling of not opening. See the flower bud metaphor in e-booklet 2. Inner Dissociation The Biblical original sin lies in ‘eating the apple,’ this is: reaching a state of self-consciousness and therefore also seeing oneself, one’s nakedness. But at the same time, it also lies Read the full article…
Good Communication is a Spontaneous Reaction
Spontaneous: not superficial but from the inside out. Two facts: • The non-conscious is always present and plays a significant role in whatever you do, also in the contact between a coach and a coachee. • The non-conscious reacts much faster than the conscious mind. The latter has been well investigated in the following experiment: A green Read the full article…