Burnout prevention for caregivers: give care, but do not ‘give it away’
Caregivers can get into the habit of ‘giving themselves away’ too much. Take care. You can learn to give without giving yourself away. ‘Giving away’ feels like you lose something. If this is your feeling as a caregiver, time and time again, then little by little you can start feeling bad. It’s as if others Read the full article…
Burnout as a Phoenix
A phoenix is a mythical bird that rises from the ashes completely renewed and stronger than ever before. This is a nice metaphor for human burnout, which can also be a stage in an altogether positive evolution. It mainly depends on how deep the process of recovery is sought. This should not sound easy of Read the full article…
How to start meditating?
Some idea about meditation may stop you even before starting. Therefore you better see it as what is always present in your mind, like the blue sky even above the clouds. To meditate is actually very easy. You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to try to meditate. You don’t have to try Read the full article…
How to give positive feedback as a leader
Good feedback is informative as well as motivational. This is as important as it is not straightforward . You want your feedback to be accurate and motivating. You may also want to learn from the feedback that you give. How is it received? How may it lead to constructive feedback towards you? Do you see Read the full article…
1. Bacteria are real. So are feelings.
Stomach ulcers are caused by stress. No they aren’t. Yes they are. No they … Do you also get the idea that people see what they want to see in this? Since scientists are people, that is true for them as well. ◊◊◊ In human affairs, there’s always something for everyone. So people who want Read the full article…
Open Leadership: not I, not I and also not we as you and me.
People call for less egoism in world politics, world economics etc. The alternative is supposed to be ‘more we’ but this ‘we’ being ‘you and me’ eventually becomes ‘me and me’. You see? What is called a paradigm shift can be more of the same in another disguise. This is apparent in politics as it Read the full article…
‘Identicity’: when collaborator and organization have the same identity.
It’s all about feeling. What if the organization were a person, what would that person look like? What would be his/her personality? And would it accord with yours? This question can with good reason be put to every collaborator. And if you are a leader, to you too of course. Even more, because of the Read the full article…
An open leader gives people an environment in which to meaningful.
People want to ‘perform.’ What this really means is: they want to make a difference. They want to mean something. They want their life to have deep meaning, some deeper sense. Also in little things, people are looking for meaning. They want to be valuable. They want to exist. People are in a continuous search Read the full article…
Love makes you stronger
Stronger in every respect – if you can let it have this effect upon you. What is mostly needed is your firm choice to do so. “Love makes you stronger…” At first sight this doesn’t necessarily fit. Love may drive a person to transcend his own personal well-being, like a parent caring first for his Read the full article…
From Bullishness to Leadership
A broad view upon bullying points to true leadership as what is needed to diminish bullishness. There is more to bullying than a bully and a bullied. There is a whole group, even a culture showing a ‘degree of bullishness.’ The actual bully is a symptom of this as much as of his own personal Read the full article…
Saving € 1 trillion in healthcare
Western medicine circumvents the mind way too much. The financial consequence of this is straightforward. Most researchers agree that the reasons why people consult their physicians are frequently psycho-somatic. This means that mind and body are involved. Or otherwise put: that the issue can be seen from a mind perspective as well as from a Read the full article…
Kindness is strength.
One leads to the other – in both directions – kindness leading to strength and strength leading to kindness. Real kindness automatically leads to strength. To many however, kindness is seen as a weakness. Indeed, a person can show kindness out of fear of being treated himself in a non-kind way, or out of fear Read the full article…
How to achieve happiness in work, life and play.
Happiness cannot be grabbed – principally. If you want to achieve it by grabbing it – that’s impossible. Try it and you lose it. So think about what you feel when you feel happiness. You feel all kinds of positive feelings. You feel little or no negative feelings. And this play of what you feel Read the full article…
Deepest motivation is an ocean of energy
The more one goes into motivation behind motivation, the more one gets into an area of the human mind that is different from the surface. It’s a bit like diving into the depth of an ocean. At the surface, one can get the impression that there is nothing but surface. Getting deeper, truth reveals itself. Read the full article…
Coaching is everywhere
Communication is three things: spontaneously expressing oneself, providing information, influencing others. Plus: being-communicated-to, of course. Look closely and you see coaching. When people really communicate, they coach each other and themselves. They invite some deeper meaning to be considered. They motivate towards change from inside out. This is not hard or heavy. On the contrary, Read the full article…
There are no extrinsic or intrinsic motivations. There are inner motivations.
There is a well-known difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. The latter is seen as being much more truly motivating. One more step to inside may be needed though. This is related to ‘subconceptual processing’, being mental processing that happens beneath the level of what can readily be put into concepts. It cannot easily be Read the full article…
Can Tango Teach Us Empathy?
Tango as art… Historically seen, thinking about empathy originates from thinking about experiencing art. Someone looks at a painting and experiences through this something meaningful deep inside. The viewer feels deeply, empathically touched ‘as if from inside the work of art.’ In most cases it’s difficult to express in words really what this is or Read the full article…