Each TOTAL Person is Infinitely Important!
There are many ways to articulate the ‘core’ of AURELIS. This (the title of this text) is a way that touches me personally. Everyone is very important, even ‘infinitely’ important. At the same time, this makes us all equally valuable. No discrimination. No distinction in deeper value. A child is a child, whether it is Read the full article…
Why Full Teacups Are Not Big Fans of ‘Empty’ Teacups
‘Emptiness’ is a screen on which much can be projected. HA! Of course lots of things are emerging from ’emptiness’. Things of which you may search for some ‘conceptual cause” which cannot be found in that ’emptiness’, because there is simply no ‘conceptual cause’ present in it. That is just what ’emptiness’ means: ’empty’ of Read the full article…
Do People Fit in Boxes?
One likes to put people in boxes. Particularly in business circles, this is a sport ‘that could peel paint off the wall’. A theory. An authority. A quadrant. Arrows. PowerPoint … And off you go. However, there are a lot of theories, many arrows, many slides, many types of boxes (DISC, LIFO, MBTI, core strengths Read the full article…
‘Doing Good’: Not as Easy as It Seems
Imagine you are a ‘special kind of therapist’. Good. All kinds of people come by your place with a ‘problem’ and they leave with a sense of relief, glad they came along. After a while they come back and then the same phenomenon occurs. Friendly faces. Nothing to worry about. ‘Doing good’ seems evident. Is Read the full article…
Dissociation at World Level
In other words and at the same time as stated earlier: ‘soul’ getting lost. But then across the world. The first time that such a thing as AURELIS came to mind (in my mind, as a rather naive post-adolescent), was in the year 1984 in Brazil. In a pediatric hospital in a favela (slum) of Read the full article…
Wanting to = Being Able to?
“Where there is a will, there is a way.” “Willpower moves mountains.” “Where autosuggestion and willpower are present together, mountains respectfully move aside.” For example with regard to smoking cessation, using the AURELIS method: “I want to, but I cannot (yet).” is just a gross underestimation of the unconscious power of ‘wanting to’. It would Read the full article…
The Distinction Between ‘Ego’ and ‘Total Self’ is Difficult to Grasp
… and it’s infinitely interesting (trying) to grasp it It can also fluctuate greatly. One moment ‘you have it’ and the other you lost it again Like the sun that is sometimes shining through the clouds. Knowing that the sun always keeps shining behind the clouds may give confidence. Sometimes one sees clearly the mote Read the full article…
An Open Leader Is a Listener
The importance of authentic communication is boundless. You know the difference between verbal and nonverbal communication. The former consists of words. The latter is everything else. A more subtle difference exists between the conceptual and the non-conceptual. The first category deals with everything that is easily converted into concepts The second category deals with the Read the full article…
Zombification
Disclaimer: this text is not for overly sensitive readers. The term ‘zombie’ probably comes from the West African nzambi, which means: a dead person who is made alive again, but who has no own free will. In the Afro-Caribbean culture this is an essential part of voodoo (originally from West Africa). So, we are in Read the full article…
The Story of Ego
The evolution from ‘I’ into ‘ego’ has been very gradual, as has been the appearance of consciousness. In a way, the latter is central to the former. [see: The Story of ‘I’. The present text is its continuation.] Consciousness has not been developed for the sake of ‘ego’. Nevertheless, it was indispensable for the appearance Read the full article…
The Story of ‘I’
Animals have an ‘I’ from the moment they know the difference between moving and sensing that something else is moving. In terms of evolution, this ‘I’ came way before ‘ego’. Say: some 700 million years before which is according to very subjective criteria of course. One could argue for much longer. Weirdness of ‘I’ Many Read the full article…
Should a Smoker Stop Smoking?
Not as such. However, (s)he should be able to ‘not want to smoke anymore.’ That’s a very different thing to do. It may not be straightforward, but is definitely worthwhile. Don’t ‘quit’ Apart from, or entwined with the small chemical influence on the brain, a smoker smokes mainly because one way or another, the smoking – Read the full article…
Acceptance?
Within AURELIS, ‘acceptance’ is about your total self including a lot of nonconscious processing. There is no breaking down, nor ignoring, nor avoiding. AURELIS is precisely not about avoidance. This deserves to be emphasized because ‘acceptance’ frequently gets such connotation. In AURELIS, there is no avoidance . So, if you have an annoying issue or Read the full article…
Object-Science Versus Subject-Science
Science about objects: physics, chemistry… Science about subjects: psychology, history… Both sciences are different and important. Alpha, beta, positive etc. Let’s skip that and simply talk about object- versus subject-science. This is related to, respectively, closed-world versus open-world phenomena. Explanatory analogy: A cloud (‘open world’ with lots of possible influences in all directions) doesn’t fit Read the full article…
Inside Values, We Find Pain and Joy
In our values, we find our worth and deepest meaning, our ‘energy’ which is no more than deep motivation. Our values are our morality. Valued gain for pain and source of joy. Inner values lead one to voluntarily accept pain. For instance: the soldier fighting for his country, the mother giving birth, the athlete going Read the full article…
‘Doing Your Best’ is Good Enough
The title of this piece can be seen as a ‘categorical invitation’, an (auto-)suggestion to strive and keep striving and at the same time not ego-wisely strive at all. The goal is to be human. People do not act morally consistent much of the time. An often used example is about a natural disaster striking Read the full article…
Hooray it Works!
It seems like the basis of this culture. Not so much the phrase in itself but rather the direct stop at its end. It is a culture of minimal effort. If ‘it works’ … what more do you want? It is also a culture of ‘many’. Many things. Something works and off you go to Read the full article…