Dancing With the ‘Deeper Self’
Letting emerge a ‘spontaneous association’, seems to be one of the easiest things to do. But what exactly is a ‘spontaneous association’? Is every thought ultimately a ‘spontaneous association’, or is there qualitatively more in the game? ‘Spontaneous’ is gradual of course. It is possible to let a spontaneous association about a particular idea emerge… Read the full article…
What is Not Coming from You, Flattens You
‘Flattens you’ in the sense of being apathic, without depth. E.g. suppose a mother gives kisses on a sore place and she continues to ‘mother’ the pain with superficial attention for a long time -> she sensitizes her child for pain by not learning it how to deal with pain from itself. The mother thinks Read the full article…
A Stepping Stone?
If you want that a child learns to count to 10, you can start teaching it to count from 1 to 2. Well done. However, if the child is at the same time being led to believe that there is absolutely nothing after the 2, really nothing at all, because 2 is simply ‘the best Read the full article…
Importance of Science to AURELIS
Science is an attempt to strengthen common sense in such a way that it can be used to transcend ‘common sense’. For example: the world is flat. Undeniably.. Anyone with a little common sense can see that clearly. Someone with a bit more common sense however will continue to think about it. Why do ships Read the full article…
Aurelian Spontaneity Might Make ‘Anything’ Seem THE Solution
‘Anything’ can of course be something valuable, or contain something valuable. That is not what this is about. It is however about: always keeping your eyes open. ALSO and even PARTICULARLY if it would be easier to close them. Does occur: Someone uses AURELIS, which supports him or her from within. In the meantime that Read the full article…
Meaning
Lots of people are looking for the ‘meaning of existence’. This seems feeble but this search is often crucial in many ways, even where it is not immediately clear. For example, whether or not someone experiences certain circumstances as negatively stressful (also at the work place), depends very much on an underlying sense of ‘meaning’: Read the full article…
The Goal: Freedom
… of the total person. This may assume a serious commitment, a firm attitude, discipline. It judders and clashes with all sorts of … and yet. A good starting point may be: “nothing changes me.” So also: “nothing stops me,” because if one is changing from within, then that change itself is the situation and Read the full article…
Possible Meaning of AURELIS in the World
AURELIS is a way of standing in the world, a way of ‘being’, or at least: an attempt to this end. Nobody is perfect, thank God. You could consider AURELIS as a form of ‘therapy’. Then it becomes a part of health care. People have problems/needs and they are trying to find a solution. On Read the full article…
Cause of All Suffering: Dissociation
From the time that people began to suffer (this is of course: since they exist), they are intrigued by possible causes and solutions for this suffering. As more organization came in social life and thinking, it was of course obvious that one also began to think about suffering in a more ‘organized’ way . Buddhism Read the full article…
Two Pats on the Back, Better than One?
Study in US: encouragement helps 98% of the people surveyed to get to better results at work. ‘To encourage’ = ‘to put heart into.’ Literally. You recognize herein the French word ‘coeur’. It has to do with ‘the heart’. It is not just a sentence stumbled out quickly, not your shoulder pat itself that is Read the full article…
Five Aurelian Values
Since AURELIS is about rational depth, ethics is important. This comes in the guise of 5 ‘aurelian values’: openness, depth, respect, freedom, trustworthiness. Starting from the total human being as measure of morality, there is of course nothing sacred in these five. It’s a very subjective choice. In principle, it could have been five others, Read the full article…
Let True Morality Stand Up!
Basically, two ‘moralities’ can be distinguished: cognitive (thinking) and emotional. However, this is a purely conceptual, abstract distinction. Reality consistently shows them intermingled. The relevance is enormous. ‘Morality’ is the basis of culture. Almost all important decisions carry within them a factor of morality, or better: moralities. ‘Stress/distress’ is in all cases related to an Read the full article…
Morality Is the Relief of Suffering
Suffering is here broadly looked upon as: any hurt related to the loss of contact with one’s inner being. In this sense, relief of suffering of others and of oneself go together. (This text has a quite Buddhistic inspiration. The aim is to be applicable for all, always, everywhere.) In one sweep, the title of Read the full article…
‘Control’ Is Not the Answer
In a search for direct ‘control’, people tend to lose more and more a deeper kind of control. This may result in a turmoil leading to problems in health and beyond. For instance, trying to ‘control’ an addiction This makes one fight a huge fight against… oneself. An addiction is not a strange dark spot Read the full article…
A Humble Person Doesn’t Submit.
‘Acceptance without submission’ is a meaningful exercise that requires a certain dose of humility. This may be important in every domain of life. “Change what you cannot accept. Accept what you cannot change.” This well-known saying seems to put acceptance and change in competition to each other. However, acceptance may go together with trying to Read the full article…
Vision!
A coach and a leader have in common what is perhaps their main asset: the ability to ‘see what no other has seen before’, a future that is at the same time personal and universal. [Note: this is not an easy text.] This is not about eye-vision of course. In the coach’s case it may Read the full article…
When Respect Ends, Manipulation Starts
The border between motivation and manipulation is fuzzy. Yet they are very different in cause, essence and consequence. As I see it: the one big difference between ‘motivation’ and ‘manipulation’ lies in deep human respect. Even if at the outside a specific attitude (motivation? manipulation?) may look pretty much the same, deep respect can bring Read the full article…