Grief
This text is a somewhat objectified gauge of the depths of grief. Within this understanding, one may hopefully also better grasp it emotionally. Sure it hurts. Don’t let this text make it hurt less but, perhaps, differently. Impermanence of being Grieving over a deceased loved one is principally grieving over loss. The loved one has Read the full article…
To be Free is to be Meaningful
Freedom may be a feeling or a being. It’s about being able to do what one wants to do ― this is, what one finds meaningful, one way or another. Being compelled to act For instance, out of patriotism, one may feel compelled to risk one’s life in battle. This ultimate sacrifice is given in Read the full article…
Practicalities of Free Will
Free will is a term that stands for many concepts, and within each concept for a cloud of meaningfulness. That doesn’t make it practically less important. Terms and concepts Also, this doesn’t mean there are many free will’s. That would mean one can fight about what is the correct free will. Such fighting is done Read the full article…
Let the Real Consciousness Come Forward
Besides many definitions of consciousness, there is a distinction between consciousness as something very worldly versus something magical. What will it be? Consciousness as a functionality Humans have received consciousness from Mother Nature because the pre-conscious era evolved toward a state in which consciousness was gradually becoming an asset for survival. In this sense, consciousness Read the full article…
Anxiety Not Felt
Worldwide, people are anxious. This may have been the case for a long time, but it’s certainly the case now. Technological progress hardens the cause and consequences. A quote about felt anxiety [*]: Anxiety disorders, including panic disorder with or without agoraphobia, generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, specific phobias, and separation anxiety disorder, are Read the full article…
Zen in Therapy
Meditation and conceptual psychotherapy are fundamentally different. Yet, in therapy, there should be a crucial place for meditation. In this text: – Therapy and coaching – therapist and coach – are the same. – Zen is – literally – meditation. Zen and pure meditation are the same. The meditative mindset of the therapist This is Read the full article…
The Freedom of Being You
People generally crave the feeling of freedom. Yet, a crucial misunderstanding may lead to a vicious circle careening into the reverse. You Being-you means being the one with your history, preferences, and other people’s influences upon you from childbirth on and even before. This is the you that can be free ― no other. This Read the full article…
Relax. Do Not Burn Out.
In burnout, one feels one’s energy being drained. A natural reflex is to rest, but there is more to it than meets the conscious relaxation. Please read first: Meaningful Relaxation Diminishing burnout through resting is not straightforward. Frequently, it doesn’t even seem to help. Someone feels tired before the resting and equally tired immediately or Read the full article…
Meaningful Relaxation
Deep relaxation can be meaningful by itself ― not only as a means to further action or a necessary slowing-down of the mind/brain machine. This is not about crisp-concept-based meaningfulness but pattern-based meaningfulness ― the meaningfulness of “This means a lot to me.” Not straightforward We are used to looking for meaningfulness in action. This Read the full article…
Your Clients are Your Teachers
As AURELIS-coach, having your best teachers right before you, you can unlock this vast potential by being open. This is also the best attitude for the coaching itself. As your teachers, they teach humility. They teach Compassion through their lives, their stories, and their relationships with you ― either by showing it or by the Read the full article…
The Inclined Plane
This is not a new insight if you know AURELIS. What it does show with a metaphor is the seriousness of the present-day Middle Ages on our way toward straightening the plane. Imagine a massive mental plane. People are living on that plane. Is it the medieval Earth before it became round? Anyway, this plane Read the full article…
The Trauma of Not Growing
Mental trauma, whether resulting from a single life event or a long-term traumatic condition, jeopardizes mental growth. Or is the lack of growth the trauma itself? Living nature is about growth. Plants grow in size; then, they grow seeds in order to grow more plants of the same species. All plants must die, but they Read the full article…
Changing Your Addicted Mind
Hard drugs are called ‘hard’ because they change the physical brain, not only the ephemeral mind. Then, how to durably change a mind addicted to hard drugs? In 2019, 70.000 people died from drug overdose in the US; 1.6 million had an opioid use disorder; 2 million used methamphetamine (crystal meth). Brain = mind More Read the full article…
The Challenge of Changing one Thought
The degree of challenge depends on the thought. Deeply embedded thoughts are more challenging to change. The difference between deep and superficial-level thoughts is crucial. Embeddedness Surface-level thoughts are more Lego-like. You can, so to speak, quickly take out one small block and put in another. Of course, there are no pure Lego-like mental blocks Read the full article…
This World is One
It just doesn’t make any logical sense that the peoples on it are divided. Yet here we are. Meanwhile, we may be living in a decade that, more than any other, is decisive in realizing oneness. “This world is one.” Of course, I mean this under the assumption that human beings would be fundamentally rational Read the full article…
Does Talking Help?
Talking as an indiscriminate empathy-vehicle in therapy/coaching may be more than nothing, but the aim should be higher. A good feeling is not enough to profoundly relieve pain and heighten Compassion. Conceptual methodologies for mental help Conceptual methodologies aim for more, but they generally don’t realize much in the direction people need for durable change Read the full article…
Deep Motivational Check-Up
This is – in the idea stage – a yearly check-up (small concrete trajectory of one by default or one + five coaching sessions) that can, in principle, be interesting for every employee. It is a win for everyone: employee, employer, and broad society. A Deep Motivational Check-Up (DMC) aims to let the coached person Read the full article…