Wanting to = Being Able to?
“Where there is a will, there is a way.”
“Willpower moves mountains.”
“Where autosuggestion and willpower are present together, mountains respectfully move aside.”
For example with regard to smoking cessation, using the AURELIS method:
“I want to, but I cannot (yet).”
is just a gross underestimation of the unconscious power of ‘wanting to’. It would be more correct to say:
“I can’t because I don’t want to.”
If your deeper self doesn’t want to, it will not work.
If you want something as TOTAL person, it will spontaneously work.
After all, then you do not have to use willpower to fight against the power of your own ‘will’. Even in the event of an addiction it is, as TOTAL person, still your own ‘will’ you are fighting against ….or do not have to fight against. So if you want to quit smoking as TOTAL person, there is no addiction to fight against.
Which is not to say that from now on all will be absolutely easy. The question is: how do you manage to be able to act more and more (but never completely, we are no supermen) ‘as a TOTAL person’ …
Then AURELIS comes along as a tool.
And then it’s very interesting to work on your own symptoms or your own ‘addiction’ (in the broad sense of the word). It is a very good tool to feel for yourself what it means to act more and more ‘as a TOTAL person’. Not that you should see it as a necessary ‘evidence to be delivered’ of course. It is rather a path you may follow (how great!) and on which there is so much to learn that it would be sad not to do so if the occasion arises.
‘Wanting to’ ¹ ‘being able to’. But often it is nevertheless the case.
It’s just by thoroughly exploring this domain that you also learn to appreciate its limits. People often want more than what is given to them because they cannot want less than what is already immeasurable in itself.
‘Wanting to’ = ‘being able to’.
Going more deeply into what this ‘wanting to’ means, is one of the most interesting things you can do. It makes the world much more diverse and already brings a lot of depth in itself. It brings all kinds of things to life.
Enjoying and then deeply enjoying
and then desiring and then deeply desiring
and then desiring without frustration.
And then … (See ‘Willpower’)
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