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Disconnected Childhood
With so many disconnected adults, who will take care of all the disconnected children? To what kind of adulthood are they, in turn, growing up? Disconnection = inner dissociation and its immediate cause+consequence of not being able to properly connect with one’s surroundings, including meaningful others. Children are natural bombs of spontaneity The smiling and Read the full article…
The Great Mental Paradigm Shift
One can see the related tension becoming more and more consequential in several fields (from healthcare to politics and more) over decades. This can continue getting worse, or we can take action to make the transition go smoothly. About? The great mental paradigm shift is about transitioning from a largely conceptual take on the human Read the full article…
Why AureLisa?
The AureLisa project aims to value the total human being on many domains and to support the individual through 1000+ AurelisOnLine sessions of autosuggestion, A.I. coach-bot Lisa (see: Introducing Lisa), and more. Altogether, this is about a paradigm shift with huge practical implications. See also: The Lisa Revolution. The importance of AureLisa in ten points You Read the full article…
Mental Patterns and AurelisOnLine
This starts from the view of the human mind as an immense bunch of mental patterns. AurelisOnLine is a tool to help you change these patterns from inside out, towards your aim, and congruent with yourself. This text starts from theory. For the pattern view, see Patterns of Everything. You find a more user-oriented explanation Read the full article…
The Open Therapist
Ample scientific evidence shows that psychotherapy works ― however, not the instrumental modalities. Then, what does work in therapy? Short answer: the therapist. Even more so, the Open therapist. Please, read first: Psychotherapy versus Psychotherapies, or take a look at this recent video, featuring Dr. Stephen Bacon (and a little bit of me). Empathy, placebo Read the full article…
Global Problems through Lack of Depth
To many, at first sight, lack of depth seems a far-fetched cause of global issues. I dare to say the opposite is true. Human depth is something we all feel yet is challenging to conceptualize. This is not a coincidence but related to the very essence of depth itself. Inner dissociation. To me, this is Read the full article…
About Feelers and Feelings
Please let this text sink in a little while. If you get it, it may make you more flexible. To have or to be? That’s the question. In mind=body unity, the human being can be seen as a body or as a set of many mental entities, including what we generally call feelings – such Read the full article…
Accept and Commit
In-depth, these two concepts are much intertwined to such a degree that they can be seen as the basis of an undivided philosophy of life ― quite congruent with AURELIS. For instance, burnout I have described burnout using this metaphor: an evolution from caterpillar to chrysalis to butterfly. The ostensible burnout phase happens in the Read the full article…
Whose Identity are You?
Who needs to gain an identity by being identical? I guess nobody should. No group deserves respect if that respect is not passed on to individuals. Identity politics “A political approach wherein people of a particular gender, religion, race, social background, social class or other identifying factors, develop political agendas that are based upon these Read the full article…
40. The Tough Concept of ‘Acceptance’
‘Acceptance’ has two different meanings. One leads to helplessness. The other leads to self-sufficiency. Once it was commonplace: People had to learn to accept chronic pain (and suffering in general) by the will of God, willingly or unwillingly. People had to ‘learn to live with it.’ In an era where there were no painkillers, people Read the full article…
The Meaning Crisis
This is probably the most meaningful of all crises. Yes, surely. Please read about ‘deep meaning,’ which is meant here. [see: “The Meaning of Meaning“] People hold on to meaningfulness. Understandably, why would someone do anything? Because there is a ‘why,’ therefore, a meaning ― agency ― life. So much more concerning deep meaning. Without Read the full article…
How to Turn a Square into a Circle
‘Turning a square into a circle’ is a metaphor for psycho-therapy. There are two opposite directions: from the inside out and from the outside in. Preliminary In this text, I denote with the term ‘psycho-therapy’ the domain of psychotherapy and mind-related coaching in a broad sense. This text describes a conceptual landscape. Any practitioner, any Read the full article…
Introducing Lisa (Animated Video)
Without further delay, in this animated video, I bring you an introduction to Lisa. [Lisa animated video – 13:15′] If you want to cooperate, please contact us. If you have feedback, please let us know. This is a draft version. Here is the full written text. Hi, my name is Jean-Luc Mommaerts. I am a Read the full article…
Two Extinctions
A recurrent maladaptive behavior, thought, or feeling can gradually diminish in two ways. Either it entirely disappears, or it dissolves. There are differences in path and endpoint. About extinction A mental ‘problem’ is usually recurrent. That’s the reason why people search for help, including professional help. In one word: therapy (or mental coaching). ‘Extinction’ is Read the full article…
Into the Not-Knowing
It is good to know many things. It is also good – indeed necessary – to not-know. Without not-knowing, we are not going to have a bright future, as we have not made a bright present. Where the hyphen makes all the difference. Not-knowing is not about a lack of knowing. It is certainly not Read the full article…
Leaders’ Meditation
Meditation can play a transformative role in leadership, making for a better and more sustainable leader. Meditation in the broadest sense is the head-on search for deep meaningfulness, which is quite special. [see: “The Meaning of Meaning“] The outer form can be sitting on a cushion, a walk in nature, or a week-long retreat. It Read the full article…
47. Those Who Do Not Want to Listen, Will Get Symptoms
Psycho-somatic symptoms are present because something else is not. The symptom as second best A person who suffers chronically from the pressure of stressful conditions will eventually develop symptoms (palpitations, dyspepsia…). That person can do something about those conditions. This will relieve stress, which in turn leads to fewer symptoms. He can also work on Read the full article…