Be(com)ing Positive
It happens: people who see themselves as ‘positive’ but who are such only in a superficial layer, like thin ice over a pool. Being positive is not saying ‘yes’ to anything and then again, it is. But not thoughtless, not feeling-less. One can say ‘yes’ in many ways. It can mean “I see you”, “I Read the full article…
(Do Not) Change
There is nothing against change unless there is nothing for change. Change as a purpose by itself may lead to negating the nonconscious (even more). A superficial change without going in-depth, just for the sake of change is no change at all. At least, not the change that I’m talking about in this text. The Read the full article…
What is ‘Parallel’?
Psychologically. We are parallel and with good reason. Sure I mean in a deeply psychological sense. In-depth, humans are parallel thinkers. Superficially, we look more like serial thinkers. We talk serially, for instance. That may be because we cannot say two words at the same time. We cannot write two words at the same time, Read the full article…
Is Lisa the Durable Answer?
Lisa promises mental support for an indefinite number of people one-on-one and simultaneously. In this, the ‘heart’ is most important and most durable now and in the future. Who is Lisa? [see: “Lisa”] In short, Lisa-software has three purposes, as: an assistant to AURELIS, guiding users to the appropriate AURELIS tool(s) an A.I. coaching chatbot, Read the full article…
Motivating towards Sustainability
How to attain durable motivation? Especially in case of a future-oriented goal such as sustainability, one needs to go towards ‘deep’. People are difficult to motivate towards the future. Not because ‘caring for the future’ is irrational, but because human motivation internally is not always rational. One can be motivated for a while, then things Read the full article…
Sustainable Growth = Inner Growth
Growth primarily happens inside people. This way, nature underlies the economy. What has been interpreted as ‘Darwinian.’ Darwin himself saw as ‘fittest’ in the transgenerational survival process the ones whose genes had most chance to be passed on. These individuals are not necessarily the strongest, the most aggressive or unscrupulous. They could be the most Read the full article…
Feeling without Feelings
I am feeling. I am ‘without feelings.’ The science It may not seem so but this is actually the most scientifically sound way to look at feelings/emotions, backed by many studies, contradicted by none. One good book about this is “How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain” by Lisa Feldman Barrett (2017). Read the full article…
Placebo Based Medicine
Alternative medicines – whether or not called ‘complementary’ – are not to be dismissed just for being alternative but to the degree that they are based on placebo-as-a-lie. Placebo >< empathy I see a huge difference between both at a conceptual level, transcending terminology. [see: “Empathy: What it Was, Is and… Will Be?”] This text Read the full article…
Listening to Silence
Silence: absence of clutter in the mind. Listening to Silence within you OK. This is meditation, whether on a cushion or in the midst of a busy street… or while coaching someone or while just having an everyday conversation or while enjoying art Listening to Silence doesn’t mean that you don’t hear anything else. It’s Read the full article…
People, Planet, Profit
One should not be against ‘profit’ except as an exclusive goal. In the latter case, it’s an addiction. In all other cases, it can be an instrument towards doing good. What is Profit? Profit = good striving. The etymology of ‘profit’ is very positive: related to proficiency, from the Latin verb proficere: to accomplish, make Read the full article…
From Symbolism to Psychosis?
I see a continuum between both. That should not be a reason to avoid symbols. Quite the contrary. Mainly: no blame to anyone! A continuum Working with symbols may in unfortunate circumstances lead to a darker progression. This needs to be managed. Actually, any symbolic experience [see: ‘Symbolism lost. Symbolism regained.’] can be seen as Read the full article…
Why Bother about Symbols?
Symbols bring another dimension to life. I would even say: they bring life to life. Without symbols, one way or another, we do not live a full life. [see also: “A Symbol Is Always YOU”] ‘Not fully living’: as if that would be possible. Of course, truth is: we need symbols. Without them, we are Read the full article…
Euthanasia Is Not an Execution
so don’t treat it as one. [see: “The Final Transition”] At the day of this writing, a friend of mine ‘committed’ euthanasia. His decision was understandable. He wasn’t a very close friend, yet it was/is somewhat traumatic. The days and hours before, it felt quite like execution was going to take place. Nobody mentioned the Read the full article…
Quit Smoking Without Gaining Unwanted Weight
AURELIS promise: this is possible for everyone. ‘Unwanted’ = you don’t want it. This is not about what someone else would want – including me – nor ‘what society wants.’ Unless then again this is what YOU want. I have seen things that I would rather have not. Like: people (including some of my patients Read the full article…
Truly Gentle
Being truly gentle includes being gentle to truth in a most humane way. Thus, striving to be gentle is of the highest importance. As in gentle-man, again [see: “A Lady’s Beauty is a Gentleman’s Delight”] Of course, this is not to acquit the ladies from any responsibility or other personal involvement. I’m talking from a Read the full article…
Beyond Sadness
‘Sadness’ is not fixed, impersonal and ‘real’ as is the computer on which I am typing this text. Instead, it is personal, social and ‘real’ in a much more interesting way. As any other emotion: surprise, fear, disgust… We live with emotions. We talk about emotions. We see emotions in other people. We feel them Read the full article…
Free App to Relieve Stress and Symptoms
A key to your inner strength in any situation of acute stress. A practical instrument to carry with you. A 1′ movie explaining the app in five keys Please look at this before proceeding. Where to find this app You can download it on your android smartphone using this link. The app is also available Read the full article…