The Addict’s Grace
Inside the addiction itself, an essential part of the solution lies patiently, gracefully waiting. While reading this text, please stay aware, together with me, of the many miseries of addiction. It is, of course, a very-to-extremely challenging situation. By focusing on the underlying ‘Big Positive,’ a new view may arise that hopefully puts many addicted Read the full article…
(Non-)Morality of Addiction
Addiction is frequently judged from a moral standpoint. This is scientifically unseemly. Moreover, it is contra-productive. The addicted person is not morally bad in being addicted. An addicted person is, by definition, not a free person. His addictive behavior is not free behavior. Thus, by definition, he cannot be a morally bad person. [see: “From Read the full article…
Addiction – Emptiness – Nirvana
Emptiness seems to be associated with addiction and Nirvana. ‘It’ is sought in both ― not coincidentally. High and low Addiction can be seen as an attempt to fill a deep-inside void, an Inner Emptiness that seems unbearable to experience. The addict tries to fill this void with occasional highs. In some way, he also Read the full article…
Inner vs. Outer Change of Patterns
This is about mental-neuronal patterns. Although this term speaks of recent scientific insights, the known relevance is age-old and ubiquitous. It is also a basic choice for the future. All in the mind? ‘Inner vs. outer change’ is not about what happens inside or outside of one’s mind, but inside or outside of individual mental-neuronal Read the full article…
Trauma Wisdom
Every trauma carries wisdom. It is like a medal of honor, challenging as it may be to appreciate the trauma in any way. With ‘trauma,’ I denote in this text the actual happening as well as the living memory of it. Trauma is (not) a part of you In one way, trauma is a part Read the full article…
Don’t’ Fight. Don’t Abide. Invite.
This is an admonition primarily to myself. You might also choose to do so. You see ― I’m already putting it into practice. No abiding (at the surface level) If it’s worthwhile, it’s worthwhile. In such a case, abiding is not gentle but weak. [see: “Weak, Hard, Strong, Gentle“] Also, showing that you will not Read the full article…
Wounded Healing
Having been wounded helps an (AURELIS) coach in-depth to get nearer to coachees ― especially if one has learned/grown from such experiences. The wounded healer This is a healer/coach who can understand another wounded person, not just intellectually, but even more experientially and profoundly. This may frequently be more important than capturing the whole factual Read the full article…
The Meaning Crisis
This is probably the most meaningful of all crises. Yes, surely. Please read about ‘deep meaning,’ which is meant here. [see: “The Meaning of Meaning“] People hold on to meaningfulness. Understandably, why would someone do anything? Because there is a ‘why,’ therefore, a meaning ― agency ― life. So much more concerning deep meaning. Without Read the full article…
We’ll Make it Through
We may get sick. We will die. We encounter adversities of many kinds. We’ll make it through, together. This is more than a promise. It is a faith. Humankind at its best. Is anything worth anything that diminishes this? I am for you, and you are for me. Compassion in coaching and anywhere else. All Read the full article…
Are Non-Specific Factors Specific?
Non-specific factors in therapy are ‘non-specific’ to instrumental therapies. What if these factors are instrumentalized? Please read first: [see: “Non-Specific Factors of Therapy“] “If we can delineate them, they are specific.” Logically, if you can conceptualize the non-specific factors, you are building a new kind of psychotherapy based on these factors. You can put the Read the full article…
Future of Mental Healing
This is an AURELIS view. Of course, AURELIS (+ Lisa) is in the picture. One can see this as the pure use of Compassion in its complexity and effectiveness. If you want to cooperate, please contact us through the form or at lisa@aurelis.org. About ‘mental healing’ In the broadest sense, mental healing is about the Read the full article…
‘To Believe’ within Coaching
A coach’s genuine belief in the coachee enables the coachee’s positive change. This kind of belief is a deep two-way communication. This may be one of the most challenging things for any human being. If it looks simple, the road is longer. Genuine belief, from the inside out This is like a leader’s deeply felt Read the full article…
Depth of Belief
Eventually, deep belief is always stronger than the superficial kind. Unfortunately, it is not always validated. This situation leads to many huge tensions that can only be resolved through its validation. What is ‘to believe’? It’s one of those concepts that seem straightforward until you start to think about what they actually mean. “I’m not Read the full article…
37. 1.5 Years of Mindless COVID
Boring news: We still don’t know much directly about the influence of the mind on COVID, nor about the placebo effect of COVID vaccinations. The world of science is unfathomably silent. June 5, 2021 Daily Total Cases worldwide 475,717 172,894,435 Deaths worldwide 10,737 3,716,853 This time of the year, as last year, in Belgium, Read the full article…
In-Depth Compassion
This is a very complex phenomenon. It is very difficult to reach and has very important implications. The usual view of compassion in relation to empathy Empathy is usually seen as part of a bigger sum that leads to compassion. This is straightforward, as in this simple scheme: If we go somewhat more profoundly into Read the full article…
The Responsibility of Mind-Science
Call it psychology, including psychotherapy. The responsibility is huge. Making the world go ’round? In many fields related to the human mind, the world is going increasingly square. Superficial roundness in such a circumstance is hurtful to many people. Therefore, outward solutions – basically making people feel comfortable – are not enough. The answers to Read the full article…
Open Leadership (Animated Video)
Without further delay, in this animated video, I bring you an introduction to Read&Do Open Leadership. If you want to cooperate, please contact us. If you have feedback, please let us know. Here is the full written text. Hi, my name is Jean-Luc Mommaerts. I am a physician and master in cognitive science and Artificial Read the full article…