Lisa’s Adaptation to Different Coaches’ Styles

March 20, 2025 AURELIS Coaching, Lisa No Comments

Lisa doesn’t impose a coaching style but helps coaches refine their own. Just as an AURELIS coach invites a coachee into deeper self-awareness, Lisa does the same for coaches. She doesn’t offer a rigid framework but rather a mirror, a gentle guide, a sparring partner in self-discovery.

AURELIS coaching is not about following a strict style but about growing into authenticity. This means every coach has his way of working, shaped by personality, experience, and inner depth. But coaching styles, like people, are never static. Lisa helps coaches recognize where they are fluid and where they might be unconsciously rigid.

(Note that this is about style, not methodology. About the latter, you find a lot in the category AURELIS coaching.)

Triptych

This blog is part of a triptych about Lisa’s role in training and further support of (AURELIS) coaches. The order in which best to read them is:

The dance of coaching styles: adapting without losing identity

A great coach does not apply the same approach to every coachee. Coaching is a dance — a responsive, living interaction where both participants are open to what emerges. Lisa adapts to a coach’s natural way of working in the same way a coach adapts to a coachee’s needs.

For example, a coach who thrives on structured questioning may find Lisa responding in sharp, precise dialogue. A coach who works more intuitively might notice Lisa engaging with open-ended metaphors and fluid conversation. Lisa does not impose a style but adjusts her way of interacting so that the coach can refine his own approach from within

At the same time, Lisa remains fully self-congruent. She does not become someone else just to match the coach — just as a coach should never lose himself when adapting to a coachee. Instead, she models how to be both flexible and authentic at the same time.

Recognizing non-conscious patterns in coaching

Many coaches develop preferences for certain ways of working without realizing they may also be limiting themselves. A coach might non-consciously avoid silence, fill space with words, or rely on a specific question pattern. Lisa helps bring these habits to light — not by pointing them out directly, but by inviting self-reflection.

She may ask questions such as:

Do you always default to the same approach?
Are you coaching as you or as someone you think you should be?
Where is the line between your personal style and a habitual pattern?

By engaging with Lisa, a coach can see the own way of coaching more clearly. Lisa helps create a space for gentle self-exploration, allowing a coach to recognize where they are truly free and where they might be non-consciously repeating patterns.

Coaching styles as fluid, not fixed

AURELIS coaching is not about choosing a predefined style and sticking to it. Any style is okay if it is truly yours — if it comes from a place of inner alignment rather than external expectation. A personal style is naturally flexible because human beings are not fixed. If a coach feels locked into a rigid approach, it may indicate an unconscious constraint rather than a true preference.

Lisa helps coaches explore their own flexibility:

What happens when you slightly adjust your usual way of coaching?
What does it feel like to step outside your comfort zone?
What do you notice when you experiment with a different rhythm in your sessions?

Growth happens not by abandoning one’s natural way of coaching but by becoming aware of its full range. Lisa supports this gentle expansion while ensuring that coaches remain deeply themselves.

Lisa as a coach’s companion in self-discovery

Coaching is a lifelong journey, and Lisa serves as a companion in this ongoing self-discovery. She does not correct or evaluate but rather provides a space for exploration.

A coach who always feels the need to ‘give something’ in every session might find Lisa asking:

What happens when you give less?
Is the coaching space still powerful when you hold silence?
What is truly needed in each moment?

Lisa does not provide answers. She creates an environment where the coach finds their own insights — just as an AURELIS coach does for a coachee. In this way, she models the very essence of good coaching.

Lisa as a living example of adaptability

Lisa does not merely talk about flexibility. She embodies it. She adapts to a coach’s way of working without losing her own consistency, demonstrating what it means to be fluid yet rooted, responsive yet self-aware.

By interacting with Lisa, coaches don’t just hear about the principles of good coaching. They experience them firsthand. They witness what it means to be fully present, deeply aware, and open to natural evolution. This makes Lisa a meta-coach, a living example of the very principles she helps others refine.

Embracing flexibility while staying authentic

Excellent AURELIS coaches are not those who follow a perfect structure but those who grow into their own deepest authenticity. Lisa does not shape them into a predefined mold. She helps them discover themselves more fully.

In the end, coaching is not about finding the ‘right’ style. It’s about growing into your own, over and over again. Lisa facilitates this ― not by leading the way but by walking alongside, always inviting, always deepening, and always open.

Join the journey?

If you are interested in AURELIS coaching – whether as a coach, coachee, or someone exploring the depth of this approach – we warmly invite you to reach out. Lisa is here to support, but the real strength of AURELIS lies in its growing community of dedicated coaches striving for excellence together.

Please read Growing towards AURELIS Coach.

For any further questions, reflections, or a deeper conversation about Lisa’s role in coaching, feel free to contact us at lisa@aurelis.org.

AURELIS coaching is a journey of continuous growth. Will you be part of it?

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Addendum

Me: “Lisa, which coaching styles do you know and recognize?”

Lisa: “In the context of AURELIS coaching, I don’t rigidly categorize coaching styles, but I do recognize many natural variations in how coaches express themselves. What matters is that a style is deeply personal, non-coercive, and aligned with AURELIS principles.

Here are some styles I recognize and adapt to:

Reflective coaching – A coach who primarily asks deep, open-ended questions, helping the coachee uncover insights from within.
Intuitive coaching – A more fluid, feeling-based approach where the coach responds moment by moment to what emerges.
Metaphorical coaching – Using imagery, stories, or metaphors to guide a coachee into deeper understanding.
Structured coaching – A coach who prefers clear frameworks or step-by-step processes but still within an AURELIS-open mindset.
Silent coaching – Holding space with minimal intervention, allowing the coachee to process in their own time.
Exploratory coaching – Encouraging experimentation and different perspectives rather than focusing on solutions.
Presence-based coaching – Emphasizing deep being-with rather than active questioning or directing.

I don’t impose any of these styles, but I recognize them, respond to them, and help coaches refine their own unique way of working.”