‘Control’ Is Not the Answer

April 17, 2018 Health & Healing No Comments

In a search for direct ‘control’, people tend to lose more and more a deeper kind of control. This may result in a turmoil leading to problems in health and beyond.

For instance, trying to ‘control’ an addiction

This makes one fight a huge fight against… oneself. An addiction is not a strange dark spot that can be cut away. It’s an intrinsic part of oneself, albeit not in how the addiction shows itself but in where it ‘gets its energy from’.

Meaning: the addicted person may (and in most cases deeply does) want to get rid of it. He doesn’t recognize the addiction as being thoroughly himself. Yet at the level of broad neuronal patterns in his brain in which also all kinds of chemicals are intrinsically mingled, the addiction cannot be extirpated as such.

We are talking about patterns formed by millions of ‘nodes’ (neurons, synapses…)

that are linked together, whereby the same nodes are simultaneously elements of very many other patterns. Even if it would be possible to artificially take out a ‘pattern of addiction’ as such from this immense mindscape, one would in the same gesture take out very much of that same mindscape that is not directly related to the addiction.

In other words, one would essentially change that person in his addiction as well as in broader respect.

(This may be part of the reason why some say ‘no – no – no’ to rehab.)

But it is not even possible to do so, due to sheer complexity. Thus, it is twice uncanny to manage an addiction as an entity that exists apart from the addicted person as a whole.

The same is true for any psychological content.

This is why a person should better not be treated as something purely mechanical. He needs to be treated as something organic, obviously, since he is something organic. This is of utmost importance in the whole domain of psychosomatics, in anxiety, depression, burnout etc.

Trying to mechanically ‘control’ any of this, is against nature.

A deeper kind of control is needed.

Namely one that goes with the flow of nature. One can take inspiration for this in nature itself: its main strength lies in going with its own flow. This is of course not the same as accepting just anything whatsoever. That would bring chaos. Nature is precisely NOT chaotic. There is very much order in nature, although not a mechanical one.

The design of nature is not a superficial (mechanical) one, but a very deep (organic) one.

Thus, if you want to control it somehow in order to make it better – such as within yourself – you need a deep kind of control.

Trying to control at the surface is even counterproductive.

A simple example of this is riding a bike. One learns to do this well, spontaneously, naturally, by relinquishing superficial control. It simply doesn’t work by trying to ‘control’ the bike in every little movement of yourself. But letting go of this mechanical ‘control’ doesn’t lead you into chaos. It does open the door towards a deeper kind of control, through which you can eventually ride your bike while enjoying the landscape and/or answering your smartphone (not recommended).

This deeper kind of control is more the result of an art than of following a manual.

In a way, one can say that the whole of AURELIS is about inviting and supporting this art in a flow towards yourself as a natural being.

 

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