What seems ‘Difficult’ and is Not
At least if one doesn’t make it so. Many human-related ‘difficult’ things are made so. The reason can be boiled down to a lack of insight.
This text is the counterpart to the blog ‘What seems ‘Easy’ and is Not.’ You might read them in one go.
In the other blog, I write about some results seeming to come out as magical.
This magic seems difficult, if not impossible, to realize from the outside. How does one start if one isn’t a wizard?
Then I dare say it’s not difficult, and, of course, I mean this from the inside out. For this, you need to put the proper steps in the right direction again and again.
If you see how-to, then it’s just a matter of walking.
Before you start
Please don’t be an apprentice wizard who thinks he already knows how to do magic. That may backfire uncannily.
Don’t think it’s easy when it’s not. What is asked from you is an internal shift ― no superficial change (horizontally) but a deep transformation (vertically). It’s even dangerous to yourself and others to be confused about this.
It’s a lot of work to make it easy.
But it’s ‘work’ that people usually don’t see as such. That is no problem, but you need to be aware of this. In a culture with an ethos of work, this may be especially challenging. You need to get people to look at it from a broader perspective.
What one needs to do to attain the above is indeed a lot of work. In the end, what seems dauntingly difficult isn’t anymore.
It’s more than a craft. It’s an art (as well as a science).
It’s a being possessed by a bigger self who is one’s true self, demanding a lot of courage to change from within.
More magic than this is hardly possible.
Relevance to AURELIS coaching
No conceptual psychotherapeutic theories and methodologies attain this ‘magic.’ In my view, that’s the reason why they don’t add anything to the effectiveness of therapy. Even more, they make difficult what should be easy.
On the other hand, AURELIS coaching by itself is ‘easy.’ The difficult part lies in the ‘becoming a wizard’ — metaphorically speaking. The true challenge lies in personal development and mastery of self rather than the external execution of techniques.
If you want to become an AURELIS coach, please first read this blog.
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