Ending Life Compassionately
Any life. This text is foremost about the ending of one’s own life. It can be seen more broadly.
Science and setting
If possible, the end of life should not be set in a clearly unscientific setting. Even if this is most easy and comfortable, getting it scientifically correct can lead to additional possibilities of depth that are very much desired.
Without exaggeration.
If there is no choice, depth comes first.
Science (common sense on steroids) is for people, not people for science. Especially at the end of life, the human experience should prevail. The symbolic setting can help very much in making the experience profoundly meaningful.
Still, there is no need for any tension between science and setting. Any such tension would be inappropriate.
Science can be warm and friendly. It mainly depends on the questions asked. The fact that it sometimes appears cold and hard speaks for itself.
The end of life is a good time to let go.
Letting go even of what it is that one should let go.
It’s about the ego, of course. But in what sense? After a lifetime of happenings and experience, this may be a good time to ‘enter a new phase’ in which the ego, if not done before, can let go. Even if slightly, it’s worth it.
“There will be life after death. It will be a good life.”
Having this experience, one way or another, is perhaps the ultimate act of Compassion. However, it’s not just an ego act. It’s a total-self act.
Also a dying person has some responsibility, if only out of self-respect.
Letting go = coming to terms with this.
Again: without knowing in what sense, if you like. Getting into the beyond is done by getting into the beyond ― not holding on to what has been.
Thus, being present (Present!) with a dying person is the best gift ― also if it’s yourself. Not ‘just’ being present, but entirely, openly, daringly, sweetly, and infinitely patiently.
Much so as if you might be the dying one or another one, and it doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter in letting go.
You’re good.
It’s always OK.
Dying is entering eternal love.
Related Posts
The Rigid Mind
A rigid mind may appear strong, decisive, or principled. Yet beneath this surface often lies fear — of change, of chaos, of the unknown self. This blog explores how and why minds become rigid, what gets lost in the process, and how a deeper form of flexibility may be gently invited. The path leads not Read the full article…
Children Want to be Heard
Children have voices that often go unnoticed, and yet, the desire to be heard is one of their deepest needs. When a child is heard, they begin to understand their own significance, which is vital for their development into confident, meaningful adults. For children, being heard means more than someone simply listening to their words. Read the full article…
Whence Aggression?
Ultimately, unresolved inner tensions are central to the origins of aggression, whether these stem from unmet needs, misunderstood emotions, or external influences. Understanding this complexity is essential to addressing the root of aggression. Three origins of human aggression Human aggression arises from a combination of biological, psychological, and social factors. Biologically, aggression is linked to Read the full article…