The Concept ‘Kindness For the Total Person’

May 18, 2018 Empathy, Personal Growth No Comments

Kindness…

is probably the first word that comes to mind with reference to AURELIS. E.g. if you want to explain to anyone what AURELIS is about.

It is also very important when you are doing an AURELIS session for example.

The aim here is to allow you to be friendly to yourself. It’s not pushing and shoving yourself, not trying to achieve what does not come from you. It is just being friendly for your ‘total self’ to the utmost extent. You’re asking. You’re inviting. You’re supporting. You are being seriously involved. You go into the matters that present themselves during a session (e.g. by thinking back to them after a session.) You integrate. You look at yourself. You’re trying to make choices that feel totally good. You are considering what you need deeply within yourself. You allow a synthesis to form itself into a new whole with new possibilities … while you never go outside yourself. Eventually nothing arises that wasn’t already there at a deeper level. So you only realize your ‘total self’.

This is not easy. We live in the midst of a culture that doesn’t really allow this kindness. And even more: a culture that doesn’t even understand it.

Egos are engaged in a billiard game and then there is no question of kindness towards other billiard balls.

There is no overlap. Only a clashing and crashing. If anyone comes with overlap, then there is no understanding or sometimes there is even an aggressive treatment. It is interpreted as an attempted aggression.

And yet everyone needs overlap.

Just look: the opposite feeling is loneliness.

So, kindness. At AURELIS this also includes ‘depth and respect’. Nothing is needed, everything is allowed… invitation.

A friendly space is a space where growth is at the top of the list.

As a dance with your deeper self. You give space and you allow the other to fill that space. ‘Infinite patience’ means that you do not start to pull towards that space after a while. If the space is not filled up, you provide another room. After a while you’ll pass, while inviting, perhaps a former space. If that is filled then, it immediately is entirely the space of the whole. Do not force anything. No pulling and counter-pulling. What happens, happens because it totally happens.

The intention of kindness is inner space.

The bigger this space, the more happiness may be fitting inside.

The bigger this space, the more a possible being-unhappy can dissolve in it until it disappears

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