As I see it:<\/p>\n
the one big difference between \u2018motivation\u2019 and \u2018manipulation\u2019 lies in deep human respect.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Even if at the outside a specific attitude (motivation? manipulation?) may look pretty much the same, deep respect can bring growth or \u2013 in absence of it \u2013 decay, ruin.<\/p>\n
This is not necessarily a respect for rules which may even come at the detriment of deep human respect, being respect for people<\/em>, or better said: for total<\/em> persons. This is about more than the layer that one may sometimes show to others or even to oneself. It\u2019s about real people who deserve real people-respect.<\/p>\n
Respect for rules is only appropriate if it is respect for the people who are involved, one way or another.<\/p>\n
Within a whole organization, this can also make the big difference.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
One should therefore \u2013 and also for the sake of humanity itself \u2013 try to transform any manipulation into motivation within an entire company. This is easy and difficult at the same time:<\/p>\n
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- It is easy in that the needed insights do not necessarily cost a lot of money nor even much time or effort.<\/li>\n
- It is difficult in that<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\u2018mere ego\u2019 is involved in manipulation. And \u2018mere ego\u2019 is never to be taken lightly.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
It may ferociously defend its own skin. In order to overcome this, there is a need for deep<\/em> empathy: enabling one to really see what makes the other tick. Empathy is also a necessary condition in order to be truly motivating. If you are a leader and are trying to motivate your people, you need this kind of empathy. You need to deeply respect them.<\/p>\n
Oh, you don\u2019t need to be a super empathizer for this. People are grateful very quickly. Nevertheless\u2026<\/p>\n
Motivation takes into account the other person for who he really is. Manipulation does not.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
The latter speaks from \u2018mere ego\u2019 and to \u2018mere ego\u2019. Surface to surface. This way, as on the surface of a lake, it is relatively easy to make things happen. A manipulative<\/em> \u2018motivational speaker\u2019 for instance may this way rather easily give the impression that things are happening for the good. The attendants may also have this impression even though in many cases it is mainly the management that is really impressed. It looks nice. However when the storm over the lake subsides, quietly the lake continues as before. Nothing has changed for the better.<\/p>\n
If attendants feel manipulated, things may even change for the worse.<\/p>\n
Motivation simply does not grow from outside in, only from inside out.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Being manipulated and feeling so deep inside, internal as well as external tensions may rise. Frustration grows. Manipulation turns into de-motivation.<\/p>\n
Time for the next \u2018motivational event\u2019?<\/p>\n
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