Thus, in every<\/em> case, if you want to overcome an addiction, it\u2019s good to take the psyche into account.<\/p>\n First step: it\u2019s you.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Within the totality of your psyche, an addiction is always a kind of \u2018wanting.\u2019 Moreover, it\u2019s always YOU who does this \u2018wanting\u2019. It\u2019s not someone else outside you. It\u2019s not in any weird way someone inside you. It\u2019s you yourself. To accept this, is a first step towards good management of your addiction.<\/p>\n Second step: accept yourself.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n If you want to really get over your addiction, you have to get through yourself. It may seem contra-intuitive: you need to accept yourself as you are. These aren\u2019t just nice words. It may be one of the most difficult things to do: to accept yourself in a situation such as the one you are in now. YOU are still worth an infinity. Accepting that is also part of the work lying before you.<\/p>\n Third step: stop any aggressive fight against your addiction.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n You don\u2019t need to stop fighting! You need to stop the aggression<\/em> if there is any. Aggression against the addiction is aggression against you<\/em>. It doesn\u2019t make you stronger. Quite the contrary.<\/p>\n With \u2018aggression\u2019, I mean an attempt to \u2018cut it out\u2019 of you as with a mental knife without taking care that you don\u2019t deeply hurt yourself in doing so. In the end, the \u2018wanting\u2019 that makes up the energy of an addiction, comes from deep inside you and is finally precisely who you are. The form<\/em> that this energy has taken, is alien to your deepest self but not the energy. What this concretely means, is:<\/p>\n Fourth step: go deep enough inside yourself<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n in search of meaningfulness. Then \u2013 and only then \u2013 you can see that so very deep inside yourself, your addiction is about this meaningfulness. This is logical: only this deepest meaningfulness can have that kind of pervading attraction that the drug presents to you. Once again: not the form but the energy that has taken this form<\/em>.<\/p>\n Of course, there is the physical component of the addiction inside your brain. But that is just the door. It\u2019s not the room that lies behind. It\u2019s not the content (energy) of that room. Room and content are your own deepest self. Therefore we come to:<\/p>\n Fifth step: learn to be there in a positive way.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n \u2018There\u2019 is inside you. A drug experience throws you towards \u2018there\u2019 (inside), but as through a kind of Benji-jumping: quite artificial and with some miscalculation you may even badly hurt yourself in the experience. Then it vehemently tears you out again and then you only \u2018want\u2019 to get back in.<\/p>\n But falling is not flying. Therefore:<\/p>\n Sixth step: learn to fly.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n When you learn to fly, then getting rid of the addiction doesn\u2019t mean anymore: getting rid of the meaningfulness that lies behind it \u2013 hidden to you or not. You don\u2019t need to be afraid anymore that something very important to you might get lost \u2013 hidden to you or not. Quite the contrary: you will notice that you can even get more out of it. You can go further into it.<\/p>\n And there, then, you may find your deepest core, the well that eventually makes you into YOU.<\/p>\n You can be there and be content then, without drugging yourself, by being yourself<\/em>.<\/p>\n Did I say this would be easy? No, I didn\u2019t. I didn\u2019t at all!<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n But I hope this text gives you some support.<\/p>\n