{"id":808,"date":"2018-03-31T09:26:30","date_gmt":"2018-03-31T09:26:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=808"},"modified":"2019-06-29T20:03:52","modified_gmt":"2019-06-29T20:03:52","slug":"from-grief-to-growth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/healthcare\/from-grief-to-growth","title":{"rendered":"From Grief to Growth"},"content":{"rendered":"

There can be positive elements in grief \u2013 if you open yourself.<\/span><\/h3>\n

The death of a person \u2013 the death of an idea \u2013 the death of a relationship \u2013 even the death of a hoped-for electoral outcome\u2026 One should not get rid of grief or bypass it.<\/p>\n

Yet what regularly happens, is that a person gets really stuck in grief. Then it lasts long, is extraordinarily painful and doesn\u2019t help. It\u2019s just\u2026 grief\u2026 like a feeling of depression that got out of hand.<\/p>\n

\u2018Getting stuck in grief\u2019 can take on several guises.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The common factor of such \u2018getting stuck\u2019 is that life doesn\u2019t continue as it should. A person gets stuck in a mind frame that after a while, he will not recognize as meaningful.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s as if he loses a part of himself.<\/p>\n

That is precisely the loss that truly hurts. It\u2019s about losing a very important part of yourself<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A symbolic part. Not just a finger or a toe, but a part of what might in certain setting be called the \u2018soul\u2019.<\/p>\n

What died outside you is a symbol of what died inside you.<\/p>\n

Well \u2013 a symbol doesn\u2019t really die. What happens is: it draws you towards it, in an attempt so to speak, to become fully alive again.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Alive within you.<\/p>\n

Grief may make you feel fractured, having lost a substantial part. The underlying goal of this happening is for you to become whole again. The feeling of grief is the result of a forceful drawing within you toward that goal \u2013 like posttraumatic stress. You are being drawn towards wholeness, but if you get stuck, you risk being drawn further into pieces \u2013 quite powerfully.<\/p>\n

From grief to growth:<\/strong> what should you do?<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It\u2019s a good idea to mentally go back to the time before your grief began.<\/p>\n

You can do this in imagination, for instance, using an AURELIS guided meditation. Start the process again and try this time to get above<\/em> the happening. Of course, not by fighting it but by giving it your deep attention. Try to remain yourself as a whole person. Don\u2019t let a part of you get lost. Don\u2019t lose yourself. The purpose of growth is to become whole and to become stronger \u2013 as a whole person.<\/p>\n

The purpose of grief, if you don\u2019t get stuck in it as just described, is the same, eventually:<\/p>\n

to become whole and to become stronger \u2013 as a whole person.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Without this inner strength, you become weak. Becoming weak, you may develop a hard shell to protect yourself. Protecting yourself, you become even weaker inside and at the same time, you become a prisoner of your own shell. This way, the world doesn\u2019t become better and neither do you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s better to be gentle, not weak.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s better to be strong, not hard.<\/p>\n

[see: \u201cWeak, Hard, Strong, Gentle<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n

It\u2019s better to become whole again, not fractured by grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As a whole person, your grief itself may then become fuel for further growth. This is the way of nature.<\/p>\n

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