{"id":7694,"date":"2021-08-01T19:40:00","date_gmt":"2021-08-01T19:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=7694"},"modified":"2021-09-17T19:42:17","modified_gmt":"2021-09-17T19:42:17","slug":"compassion-and-equanimity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/empathy-compassion\/compassion-and-equanimity","title":{"rendered":"Compassion and Equanimity"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h3>Compassion and equanimity: two complex concepts that belong together in-depth.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Compassion is a kind of positive empathy.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Not: getting carried away in other people\u2019s feelings, but:&nbsp; having and showing attention for them&nbsp; =&gt; feeling those feelings like the waves on a deep ocean and then inviting the others to go deeper with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Emotions are contaminating when a deep connection is felt.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For instance, between AURELIS coach and coachee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is especially true in compassion.&nbsp;Combine this with a good way of accepting, and you have a potent combination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>acceptingly apathetic \u00df\u00e0 acceptingly equanimous<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Equanimity = on the background, deep consciousness<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;See, now I\u2019m angry.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>is a form of attention, but says nothing about the kind of attention:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>superficial: waves on the surface can become larger (such as anxiety + superficial fixation on the object of anxiety -&gt; anxiety keeps increasing) -&gt; flooding OR letting go of emotions (\u2192 apathy\/depression)<\/li><li>deep flow, real change (such as anxiety + attention to the underlying basis of equanimity) \u2192 deep acceptance\/growth<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Equanimity therefore also includes depth in feelings.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This does not mean bigger waves, but: a large stable current that makes many things possible.&nbsp;This is also a trait of a true leader -&gt;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>bringing stability<\/li><li>deep motivation, lots of energy<\/li><li>giving direction<\/li><li>depth: in which all waves find themselves<\/li><li>projecting a sense of unity.<\/li><\/ul>\n<div data-object_id=\"7694\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarkwrap cbxwpbkmarkwrap_no_cat cbxwpbkmarkwrap-post \"><a  data-redirect-url=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7694\"  data-display-label=\"0\" data-show-count=\"0\" data-bookmark-label=\" \"  data-bookmarked-label=\" \"  data-loggedin=\"0\" data-type=\"post\" data-object_id=\"7694\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarktrig  cbxwpbkmarktrig-button-addto\" title=\"Bookmark This\" href=\"#\"><span class=\"cbxwpbkmarktrig-label\"  style=\"display:none;\" > <\/span><\/a> <div  data-type=\"post\" data-object_id=\"7694\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarkguestwrap\" id=\"cbxwpbkmarkguestwrap-7694\"><div class=\"cbxwpbkmarkguest-message\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarkguesttrig_close\"><\/a><h3 class=\"cbxwpbookmark-title cbxwpbookmark-title-login\">Please login to bookmark<\/h3>\n\t\t<form name=\"loginform\" id=\"loginform\" action=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/wp-login.php\" method=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-username\">\n\t\t\t\t<label for=\"user_login\">Username or Email Address<\/label>\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"text\" name=\"log\" id=\"user_login\" class=\"input\" value=\"\" size=\"20\" \/>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-password\">\n\t\t\t\t<label for=\"user_pass\">Password<\/label>\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"password\" name=\"pwd\" id=\"user_pass\" class=\"input\" value=\"\" size=\"20\" \/>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-remember\"><label><input name=\"rememberme\" type=\"checkbox\" id=\"rememberme\" value=\"forever\" \/> Remember Me<\/label><\/p>\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-submit\">\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"submit\" name=\"wp-submit\" id=\"wp-submit\" class=\"button button-primary\" value=\"Log In\" \/>\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"hidden\" name=\"redirect_to\" value=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7694\" \/>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/form><\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Compassion and equanimity: two complex concepts that belong together in-depth. 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