Such as:<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 What\u2019s the problem? -> What\u2019s the goal? <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 What is the deeper purpose? <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 What is the cause of this deeper purpose? Why do you want that? <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Be there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In the case of superficial goals, it is not so interesting to look for causes. If it\u2019s about deeper goals, it is interesting, of course, without necessarily wanting to frame those causes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Those causes are the source of the goals that are transformed into problems if they cannot flow spontaneously. It is then essential to go to that source. It is then important to stand at that source, to \u2018be there.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is the source of your deeper and deepest motivations.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is also the case with a psychosomatic \u2018problem.\u2019 There is a \u2018goal\u2019 also in this. This goal is not always easy and often impossible to express in words at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It certainly cannot be found in an easy list. However, it is also interesting to take this into account.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As a coach, it\u2019s best to just be open.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If something happens, you point this out to the coachee if he is ready for it. Anyway. Coaching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2018Being there\u2019 is less evident in all this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, you are overweight.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Problem = overeating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Goal = eating less. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Deeper goal = getting slim from within, without having to fight against yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Cause of this deeper goal: you are who you are. Whether you consciously know it or not, you are a valuable being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 \u2018Being there\u2019 is appreciating this insight, inviting it to yourself, \u2018letting it be,\u2019 letting it determine you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If a coachee has a hard time with this (which is often the case), it is undoubtedly important for the coach to guide in this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The example above is about self-esteem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you look closely,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n you may often see in the problem a reflection of what is happening at the source on a deeper level. As if mind-body wants to show in a little stage play what it\u2019s really about. For example, someone feels inferior \u2018because of\u2019 an obese body. A feeling of inferiority also lies at the source. It is there that it needs to be resolved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then look at the source<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n and you will see a great desire for dignity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can now let the coachee enjoy this desire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can now let the coachee enjoy his dignity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can \u2018be there,\u2019 together <\/em>with the coachee<\/p>\n\n\n\n and, if all is very well, you may laugh together with the hassle.<\/p>\n