This gap is huge.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s almost certainly much bigger than you think, dear reader. [see: \u201cMedically Unexplained Syndromes<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n\n\n\n But how is this possible, and where does it come from?<\/p>\n\n\n\n People want to feel in control.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is more emotional than rational. The desire is not so much to be<\/span> in control than to feel<\/span> in control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Thus, we go to great lengths to keep the feeling. Since health is essential to most humans, the feeling is guarded very cautiously in this domain. From time immemorial, people have thought to know more than they actually did. Over time, the filling changed dramatically. Much of it used to be \u2018the gods.\u2019 Now, with matter as the main religion of many, the filling is, not surprisingly, more material than ever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Note how this can backfire. The feeling may be heightened by closing one\u2019s eyes for an uncertain reality. Unfortunately, this is frequently the case. People rather believe in what is bonkers than accept a real lack of knowledge and control. Organized religions are full of such stuff. The world of science is by far not immune to the same. [see:\u201d \u2018Control\u2019 Is Not the Answer<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Skeptical<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Meanwhile, this pervading desire should make one (even more) skeptical about the filling, also in health-related matters. The hype of the past century or two has been material. Before that also, but the notion of \u2018material\u2019 kind-a must have felt differently. It\u2019s hard to say, but in my view, the mental and the material seemed to be more fluid, even while the mental was more religion-infused. There was also more of a feeling of oneness with nature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The present is rather dissociated from nature, as also from oneself (nature inside). Within this dissociation, matter and mind seem further apart than ever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, if the body gets sick, causes are sought in the substance of the body; this is, matter. The psyche, also because of being much less controllable, is thrown overboard with little regard. Add to this the dismal causal thinking in healthcare, and you get the present. [see: \u201cWhere\u2019s the Mind in Medical Causation?<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also in psycho-therapy (including psycho-somatics)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The main thrust is towards control. Anything related to the real complexity \u2013 and uncontrollability \u2013 of the mind has difficulty being validated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This leads to awful support for many people in need. The vulnerable get caught in a vicious circle with two exits: more suffering (especially over time) or less sensitivity. The latter is sometimes called \u2018resilience\u2019 or \u2018stress resistance.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n Can this honestly be a worthwhile goal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yet, daring to go for it brings a new form of control<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The psyche (mind, deeper self) is uncontrollable when looked at from the outside. The perspective changes when looking deeper. Also, the kind of control changes. [see: \u201cLess Control is More Control<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n\n\n\n One can see this \u2018other control\u2019 as less direct, perhaps more feminine than patriarchal (at least in a cultural sense), more suggestive than directive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This does not lead to \u2018less control,\u2019 especially if there is so little to start with when caught in an unrealistic feeling of control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The main problem<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n is that the suggestive kind does lead in the eyes of many (men and women) to less of this feeling. There is an emotionally hard nut to crack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yet, we will need to do so in order to become more real and rational.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In my view, it\u2019s worth all the effort.<\/p>\n