This may be one of the most challenging things for any human being. If it looks simple, the road is longer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Genuine belief, from the inside out<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is like a leader\u2019s deeply felt Yes-attitude \u2015 looking for the level at which \u2018Yes\u2019 can be said because it is meant. It is part of becoming an Open Leader. [see: \u201cOpen Vision on Leadership<\/a>\u201d] Eventually, traveling this path, the \u2018Yes\u2019 can come right at the start of searching the question. You might notice this when looking at genuine leaders in action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Within leader and coach, this belief is \u2018deep\u2019 because it is in-depth related to many mental-neuronal patterns. [see: \u201cPatterns in Neurophysiology<\/a>\u201d] Thus, it\u2019s robust and can have a wide impact. [see: \u201cDepth of Belief<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Living an open life \u2013 including setbacks \u2013 is helpful in building, gaining, developing relevant and powerful patterns. It may be called wisdom<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Deep-to-deep communication<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n To believe in the coachee, the coach needs to \u2018know\u2019 the coachee. This is not so much about life details as about recognizing oneself in the other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For this, the coach has to listen deeply. [see: \u201cDeep Listening<\/a>\u201d] An in-depth two-way communication is needed. There is always a search involved and, therefore, incertitude and openness. This forms a space in which communication can evolve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The coach feels the coachee and lets the coachee feel his deep belief. For this, it is positive if the coach profoundly believes in \u2018the human being\u2019 \u2015 but not naively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unconditionally<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The coach\u2019s unconditional belief in the coachee works as a deep belief. It doesn\u2019t work if it is not deeply meant and felt. Thus, it comes after communication.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Not meant here is a straightforward coach position of \u201cI always trust everybody.\u201d This is not veridical, therefore not deep. It bears no relation to anything conditional at all. Consequently, it is not \u2018unconditional.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n Not easy. I warned you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The coach\u2019s job<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n So, there is also work involved from the coach\u2019s side to \u2018believe in the coachee.\u2019 The coachee feels this as empathy. [see: \u201cHow Empathy Works<\/a>\u201d] In-depth, it turns into Compassion. [see: \u201cOnly Compassion Works<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n\n\n\n This enables the coachee to believe in himself. It is a substantial part of the healing experience in coaching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Outside of a professional relationship, one might call it \u2018love.\u2019 Etymologically, the word be-lieve<\/em> is related \u2015 not by coincidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Note here nothing mechanical. Simply going through the motions doesn\u2019t do the trick. Even more, the fake can have a reverse effect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n