What is a good coach?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Straightforwardly, a good coach is a successful coach. But what is success in coaching\/therapy? This question may be answered in several ways. [see: “What is Success in Therapy?<\/a>“]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let’s say this question has been answered satisfactorily.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then, is a good coach makeable?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Or a good teacher, a good leader, a good diplomat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n This question is profoundly and interestingly different from whether one can be influenced towards becoming a good coach. ‘To influence’ is not ‘to make.’ The latter is instrumental; therefore, hardly feasible. [see: “You Are an Organism, Not a Mechanism.<\/a>“]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Makeability is not pertinent to human beings, except through manipulation or coercion. This is the same in other humanistic fields, such as morality. [see: “Is Man Morally Makeable?<\/a>“]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let’s say we are not into this. We can focus our question a bit more now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Can one be influenced towards becoming a good\/better coach?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Much of this depends on motivation. Again, this is no straightforward subject. Superficial motivation is no motivation at all. [see: “Deep Motivation – Because it is the Only Motivation<\/a>“]<\/p>\n\n\n\n It has to go deep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A non-motivated person has the doors shut towards being influenced. One may comprehend this as: To influence a person starts with motivating that person towards different behavior (in a broad sense).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Can one be motivated<\/em> towards becoming a good\/better coach?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n People want to be seen as accomplishing things. [see: “I Want to Do in Group<\/a>“]<\/p>\n\n\n\n This ‘to be seen’ or ‘in group’ may be interpreted abstractly. It can be concrete. It can be a projection, a deceased person, a symbol even \u2015 as long as there is a conscious\/non-conscious feeling of being seen. With deep listening and open communication, this can be fostered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To ‘accomplish,’ one needs to have the ability to do so. One needs at least the feeling of control. Otherwise, there is a lot of stress (still wanting to) or demotivation (not wanting to).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Contradictory?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Thus, to become a better therapist\/coach, it is helpful to know that it is feasible to become better. The problem is, science shows this to be controversial.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At least, through instrumental means.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Science also shows that ‘non-specific factors’ are most important in relevant success, if not all-important. In my view, Compassion is the key.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Compassion can be developed if you look at it as an art. [see: “Is Compassion Art?<\/a>“] This has been shown to be feasible. It may be mainly dependent on ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Additionally, once Compassion is present, techniques can be used to sharpen one’s ‘instrument of Compassion,’ which is oneself. [see: “Growing towards AURELIS Coach<\/a>“]<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, returning to the first question:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Is a good coach makeable?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, of course. But only through himself, from the inside out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This can be invited, not coerced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then it can be fostered organically, not mechanically. Techno-logy for this is possible to a huge degree. Techn\u00e8 (\u03c4\u03ad\u03c7\u03bd\u03b7<\/a>) is ancient Greek for craft, art, cunning. This, again, is not independent of the artist.<\/p>\n