One cannot simply fall asleep based on a mere act of will, such as by snapping your fingers or closing your eyes. That would be easy, of course. But it\u2019s not. One can take care of the surroundings, though, lay down, eyes closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sleep \u201cis coming upon you\u201d as a gift in the night. Still, many people see a good night\u2019s sleep as something they somehow need to grab<\/em> and not just get.<\/em> That makes a big difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Grabbing often gets in the way of getting. You may know it firsthand or second hand: The more effort one makes to fall asleep, the less chance it will succeed. Until one gets so tired of making all this effort that one lets go of the grabbing, and as a reaction, one receives the gift of falling asleep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nature is magnanimous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If they can\u2019t get it, nor grab it, they\u2019ll buy it. In the form of an evening pill, for example. As you may well know, I\u2019m not talking about a few exceptional cases.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unfortunately, this has little to do with getting a natural sleep. For many, it feels like an artificial sleep. After three weeks, this buying-off, regardless of what one gets, is no longer effective. All that remains is the rebound and a horde of insomniacs looking for a dream world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But in reality, they are caught, sorry for the comparison, like rats in the nocturnal caves of Hamelin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Something that can only be given, cannot be seized or bought. So there\u2019s only one option left, and that\u2019s inviting<\/em>, letting go. If sleep comes a-calling, it is good. If sleep doesn\u2019t come, it\u2019s good too<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This does not fit into a cultural world model that is always reaching towards what immediately<\/em> presents itself as the best option, without much insight. However, nature cannot be shackled. Nature wants its place, and it\u2019s wise to give her that. In this case, this means letting go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That may leave you with the impression that you are losing control, but rest assured, it is a control that you didn\u2019t have in the first place. And what\u2019s more, it\u2019s just an impression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The intention is that you invite so that what you desire will present itself as a gift. This way, everyone will be satisfied: both the pillow and the head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As a caregiver, you take the first step in the right direction if you show the patient the vital difference between what it means to get sleep and grab sleep. It\u2019s worth a try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That can happen in many ways. The following metaphor can clarify this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A good dance requires a constant invitation. The person who leads the dance creates space for the dance partner. Important: it is the one who is \u2018guided\u2019 who eventually initiates<\/em> the actual movement. If he doesn\u2019t start the movement, that\u2019s fine<\/em>. However, if the leader, in that case, starts pulling or pushing his dance partner, the effect will be broken. The dance partner feels forced and prefers to walk away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The same goes for inviting sleep. Whatever tool one uses, it is sleep itself that must take the first step. Otherwise, it won\u2019t work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This seems simple, and it is. Nevertheless, it is challenging for many to grasp the difference and put it into practice. Think of the old custom of \u2018counting sheep.\u2019 One sheep after the other skips along, and you start counting until you fall asleep. Now it is for you to find out:<\/p>\n\n\n\n And yet, this is essentially the issue that so many people have to deal with every night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ha! Didn\u2019t I see a sheep in sheep\u2019s clothing passing by?<\/p>\nMany people even see a good night\u2019s rest as a right.<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
An inviting pillow, a head full of sleep<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
A broader vision will allow you to take control.<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
The next step is putting the invitation into practice.<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
Are the sheep skipping along by themselves, or do you make them do so? That\u2019s not obvious, you see.<\/h5>\n\n\n\n