Once it was commonplace: People had to learn to accept chronic pain (and suffering in general) by the will of God, willingly or unwillingly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In an era where there were no painkillers, people had no choice but to deal with pain. Acetylsalicylic acid and paracetamol are only about 100 years old.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Opium\/morphine had, of course, been freely available for a long time, so there were many addicts. In the perception of many people, \u2018accepting pain\u2019 was a means to combat this addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even nowadays, acceptance is sometimes all that is left and, therefore, also pretty important. Well, globally, we can distinguish two forms of acceptance. One leads to a feeling of helplessness, the other leads to self-reliance. There are, of course, other forms of acceptance, such as the stoic way or the acceptance by seeking distraction. These two forms of acceptance are combination forms of the two basic ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The distinction between the big two<\/em> is crucial for the further state of health of the sufferer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One just \u2018endures.\u2019 People don\u2019t even try anymore because \u2018it is what it is.\u2019 It is believed that there is nothing to be done about the pain, and that is why one curls up and disappears. The advantage of this way of doing things is that the tension of the chronic fight against the pain will disappear \u2015 a fight that drastically increases, if not the pain perception, then indeed the suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But the end of this fight marks the beginning of hopelessness. The pain remains the enemy and transforms only from an intruder to an oppressive power that hinders all freedom and takes a high toll on everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Depression is not far away<\/p>\n\n\n\n In the latter, I am an experience expert: I had three months of severe pain in my left leg, day and night, while lying down, sitting, standing, and walking. So I can describe it from my point of view. Well, I never saw the pain as an \u2018enemy.\u2019 I\u2019ve never even learned so much about myself and about the human being<\/em> in general than I did then. Even in retrospect, that period is still a good teacher that benefits me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n With this form of acceptance, it is therefore possible to feel \u2018good\u2019 despite the pain. It makes people stronger. They can also better understand the chronic pain of others in all aspects, including the realization of \u201cthis pain may never go away.\u201d This teaches people to better accept each day\u2019s value, the small things, the value of life itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2018Suffering\u2019 also becomes \u2018life\u2019 and, paradoxically, becomes less \u2018suffering.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n Acceptance is relevant in every suffering. So it is always important to consider this, although it is difficult because people have generally forgotten to deal with it. We want a straightforward and easy solution for every suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even in the case of chronic psycho-somatics, people often consult the doctor with this question over and over again. If the desired solution is not given, they look for alternatives. The latter may not seem rational to the doctor, but it does seem rational to the patient. He sees only one great battle against the \u2018enemy being the suffering\u2019 in which only one victor comes out. The end justifies the means.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Like the end of a fight, at least the one against the pain together with this doctor. Suffering remains the enemy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This while \u2018learning to live with it\u2019 can mean something completely different. Agreed: learning to live with it is not easy to place in a care path. It presupposes something that they won\u2019t teach you at school. It doesn\u2019t slip out of the pen on a prescription. Supporting the patient as he learns to accept will also reduce his suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At the limits of pure medicine or at the limits of reducing suffering?<\/p>\nThe first form of acceptance is \u2018curling up and disappear.\u2019<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
A different acceptance approach is coping with \u2013 for example \u2013 chronic pain as a given, almost like a \u2018friendly teacher.\u2019<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
Going into the patient\u2019s quest<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
If a doctor says: \u2018There is nothing more we can do. You have to learn to live with it,\u2019 how does that look to the patient?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
Where does the doctor\u2019s responsibility stop?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n