{"id":3149,"date":"2020-02-09T18:31:08","date_gmt":"2020-02-09T18:31:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=3149"},"modified":"2022-04-19T18:12:25","modified_gmt":"2022-04-19T18:12:25","slug":"weakness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/cognitive-insights\/weakness","title":{"rendered":"Weakness"},"content":{"rendered":"

Weakness is to be avoided. This doesn\u2019t mean that everybody should become harder.<\/h3>\n

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Many human features are lying on continua with extremes at both sides. If utter hardness lies at one extreme of such a continuum, weakness lies at the opposite.<\/p>\n

Still, being less weak doesn\u2019t mean being harder. There is more complexity in humanity.<\/p>\n

People should find their Inner Strength.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You might already know that this is what AUREL-I-S is eventually about. It can be seen as support \u2013 in many ways \u2013 to let people find their inner strength as much as possible. To \u2018heal yourself,\u2019 for instance.<\/p>\n

People should get adequate support. Like in: It\u2019s no good to throw someone into a swimming pool without making sure there is water in the pool. There is no point in making people get hurt just so that they would grow callous.<\/p>\n

There is no point in making people insensitive. One doesn\u2019t need to become insensitive to become less weak. On the contrary, being insensitive is itself a weakness.<\/p>\n

Weak is not gentle<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I frequently refer to [see: \u2018Weak, Hard, Strong, Gentle<\/a>\u2019]. To be gentle is to be present, to communicate, to help someone even if that involves a risk to oneself.<\/p>\n

To be weak is to be absent. One may be there all right, but not in substance. Anything challenging is avoided. No backbone, no inner strength, no standing up in spite of the possibility to get hurt.<\/p>\n

To be weak is like watching from the sideline, flowing with the stream to where this happens to flow today.<\/p>\n

Weak is also rather hard<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Someone may get hurt, and yet a weak person doesn\u2019t interfere. Only when the hurt comes too near, when one gets hurt oneself, weakness cries for \u2018justice.\u2019<\/p>\n

For instance, as an element of a larger group that provides \u2018identity.\u2019 This can hide weakness behind, for example, a strongman. Thus, weakness may become a source of hardness. Weakness makes one prone to abusiveness in both directions: towards oneself (strongmen don\u2019t lend their services for free) and towards others.<\/p>\n

Weakness is not the opposite of hardness. Weak can be hard. The opposite lies in another direction altogether. Related to this: cowardness is not the opposite of aggression. It can lead to much aggression. Not the middle-ground, but the opposite of both is the following.<\/p>\n

Assertiveness<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Raising one\u2019s voice if and only if needed. Doing the right thing just because it is right. There is no aggression needed to be assertive.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also about perseverance: proceeding in the chosen direction until the goal is reached, not only until a limited amount of energy has been depleted.<\/p>\n

Defending someone in that person\u2019s weakness may make him dependent. That is not the best way.. It builds a defensive wall that may readily turn into a prison wall.<\/p>\n

The best way to support a weak person<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

is to show him your strength in a way that it also becomes his strength.<\/p>\n

Then to let him be strong by himself<\/p>\n

enjoying the process together.<\/p>\n

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