If you have a phobia for spiders and you go to a therapist, there\u2019s a big chance that he will subject you to a \u2018systematic desensitization\u2019. This is: you are gradually brought into contact with \u2018spider\u2019 until you can stand its presence or even touch the real thing. Simple procedure, no? And doesn\u2019t it work? Just like that.<\/p>\n
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Of course, your phobia itself is not generated by the spider. As with any fear\/anxiety, this phobia exists inside you, not outside you. The spider is not inside your brain. The perception of spider is. Your phobia, in short, is generated by your perception<\/em> of the spider.<\/p>\n \u25ca\u25ca\u25ca<\/p>\n Well then, the question is important: is the phobia somewhere hidden inside a well circumscribed part of your brain (mind)? Or is it part of the way you are as a total person? In the first hypothesis, a plug-and-play change of this faulty part is possible and recommended. Someone else could do this for you, or almost. In the second hypothesis however, not so. Here, a growing-beyond is very clearly the only really worthwhile solution. Now, this is a totally different matter of course. You have to do this very much yourself. The help you can get for this is also of a completely different nature. You see: these are completely different points of view, with very different consequences.<\/p>\n \u25ca\u25ca\u25ca<\/p>\n According to me, the second hypothesis is true. After all, human mind is nature\u2019s product, not a technical product. This, together with its extreme complexity, makes it almost impossible for something like a phobia to exist as a distinct part, unrelated to the rest of mind. In the real world, mind is not a clockwork-like device.<\/p>\n \u25ca\u25ca\u25ca<\/p>\n This means that you can best evolve beyond the phobia through changing as a total person. You do this inasmuch as you \u2018let the spider talk to you\u2019, whether or not you are involved in a systematic desensitization process. This means: let its meaning become clear to you in a natural way,<\/em> by itself<\/em>. You have the possibility to accomplish this. This means: not getting rid of it, but letting it \u2018organically\u2019 transform itself and<\/em> you. Give it the energy and the support that are needed for this. A plug-and-play change is not enough.<\/p>\n \u25ca\u25ca\u25ca<\/p>\n Use autosuggestion.<\/p>\n \u25ca\u25ca\u25ca<\/p>\n \n