We all know it, or should know it by now. People who go on a diet, in many or even most cases eventually end up gaining more weight than they have lost in the process. Why? And how to prevent it?<\/p>\n
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Think of a small boat. You are in the boat. So are \u2018you\u2019. I mean: your deeper self, your subconscious, your <everything that\u2019s there but you are not consciously aware of>. You get the picture?<\/p>\n
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Now you are pulling at the boat in a certain direction, but (at least a substantial part of) \u2018you\u2019 doesn\u2019t think that\u2019s quite a good idea. So \u2018you\u2019 is pulling back to the other side in order to keep the boat straight. In this way, the situation can become such that you and \u2018you\u2019 are pulling strongly and even more and more strongly. This leaves you with 2 possible actions.<\/p>\n
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As a first option, you pull as strongly as you can. In this case you can win for a short while. The problem is that \u2018you\u2019 is much stronger than you in the end. Also, the moment you let go, tjak! The boat turns briskly to the other side.<\/p>\n
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A second option is that you start talking to each other. You can tell the other \u2018you\u2019 that you want to go in a certain direction. Of course this means talking the same language. How on earth can \u2018you\u2019 understand yourself if you don\u2019t talk the same language?<\/p>\n
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Pull and you will be pulled back.<\/p>\n
Learn, talk, listen\u2026<\/p>\n
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So far so clear, but then I\u2019m afraid: the language is not a concrete language. The language of \u2018you\u2019 is not a pill – or – button language. It\u2019s metaphoric, talking in pictures, a poetic language. In general, it\u2019s an \u2018autosuggestive\u2019 language. That\u2019s not so easy but if you stop pulling like hell, you have plenty of time to learn it.<\/p>\n
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If well done, is it effective? Turn around the question: are you<\/em> effective? Sure you are. You\u2019re the one who gains and loses weight. Nobody else but you. If you can do the one, you can do the other. Or should I say \u2018you\u2019? Definitely, I should say \u2018you\u2019. So you, make sure that you and \u2018you\u2019 are close friends. Anyway, you both are in the same boat. In principle, you can start talking anytime. Let the wind blow. Let the boat float. Take advantage of yourself, relax and enjoy.<\/p>\n \u25ca\u25ca\u25ca<\/p>\n If you can let it be, the boat knows already more or less by itself where to go to.<\/p>\n \u25ca\u25ca\u25ca<\/p>\n \n