{"id":2605,"date":"2019-11-22T20:12:23","date_gmt":"2019-11-22T20:12:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=2605"},"modified":"2021-05-24T12:17:00","modified_gmt":"2021-05-24T12:17:00","slug":"stand-by-your-man","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/love-relationship\/stand-by-your-man","title":{"rendered":"Stand by Your Man"},"content":{"rendered":"

For the ladies. The principle is gender-unrelated.<\/h3>\n

Even if your man is ostensibly incorrect\u00a0(but not immorally so)<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

or even especially in such case, it\u2019s important to make some effort to \u2018stand by.\u2019<\/p>\n

It is very human to do so, very warm, probably quite irrational, very endearing, close, following, thereby listening and hearing what cannot otherwise be heard\u2026 I stop here what could go on indefinitely.<\/p>\n

One dance. One invitation. One appreciation<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

again and again.<\/p>\n

Invite him.<\/p>\n

One could point out that from A<\/strong> to C<\/strong>, there\u2019s always a B<\/strong> and never a D<\/strong>. Are you even sure of that?<\/p>\n

Does it really matter? Sometimes, maybe. Probably. Sometimes. Many times, however, what is at stake is more personal. People do not live within a textbook of mathematics and logic. People live lives of flesh and blood and\u2026 neurons and so on. Really.<\/p>\n

This means that poetry matters a great deal.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you should throw away your critical thinking.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

On the contrary. Sorry that I keep repeating this. It is so important.<\/p>\n

Stand by your man in order to show him yourself, to show him who you are. How could he see you if you\u2019re not even there? I mean: there<\/em>? Close to him<\/em>? To see what he wants from you<\/em>?<\/p>\n

Forget war. Remember peace.<\/p>\n

You are not in a constant battle with each other unless you make it so. Otherwise, you\u2019re constantly dancing with each other, with yourself. [see: \u201cDancing With the \u2018Deeper Self\u2019<\/a>\u201d]<\/p>\n

It is very worthwhile to do so together<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Let your man know that you are there for him.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Then he will be there for you.<\/p>\n

Mind that this does not necessarily mean an \u2018us\u2019 (you two) versus a \u2018them\u2019 (the enemy). It might be so. It might not. If it is necessarily<\/em> so, then you are probably both self-serving. In my view, that is not really being there for each other but for oneself. Then your togetherness is more like a fragile house of cards. Not a real house to live in, to build upon.<\/p>\n

If you think you are giving something away<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

then you should think twice.<\/p>\n

If you are really \u2018giving something away<\/u> (that means: you substantially lose) that is of importance to you\u2019 \u2013 like your independence, your freedom, your right to be you, your time, your essence\u2026 \u2013 then stop doing so, re-evaluate, talk to someone, give it a break\u2026<\/p>\n

until you are certain that you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You can only dance a beautiful dance with your total self, not with half of it. Although the latter may be comfortable, it is not worthwhile. It is not beautiful.<\/p>\n

Support your man<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

wholeheartedly.<\/p>\n

If you see he can use some help, try to give it as inauspiciously as possible. Less is more? Subtle is even better. [see: \u201cWhat is Subtlety?<\/a>\u201d] Within any dancing, there are lots of opportunities for this.<\/p>\n

Then, if he succeeds, you can be proud of him.<\/p>\n

Is this immensely, incredibly, incomprehensibly nice?<\/p>\n

To me, yes.<\/p>\n

I would move mountains.<\/p>\n

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