{"id":1915,"date":"2018-08-19T18:18:48","date_gmt":"2018-08-19T18:18:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=1915"},"modified":"2021-05-29T15:26:46","modified_gmt":"2021-05-29T15:26:46","slug":"from-brain-to-speaking-some-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/public-speaking\/from-brain-to-speaking-some-tips","title":{"rendered":"From Brain to Speaking \u2013 Some Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"

Insight in the brain does have practical consequences to a speaker. This text provides a few tips. It\u2019s up to you to integrate them in who you are \u2018from inside out\u2019: see the first tip.<\/h3>\n

But first: how to use these tips.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You find the actual tips underlined. Please try to not just conceptually get them, but to \u2018make them your own\u2019.<\/p>\n

Conceptually, salt remains salt. More-than-conceptually, it dissolves in water. Thereby, it becomes digestible and can even become part of your very life. You get the difference?<\/em><\/p>\n

In order to let this happen, the non-underlined parts are equally important. In addition to this, other blog texts in this speaking-series give more useful background.<\/p>\n

So, first tip: see yourself as a complex being that needs to \u2018grow into things\u2019. You are an organism, not a mechanism.<\/u><\/p>\n

Your brain: 1010<\/sup> neurons + 1016<\/sup> communications between these, every second<\/u> of your life.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

See: \u2018Public-Speaking Neuronal Patterns<\/a>\u2019]<\/p>\n

That\u2019s a lot of flexibility under the skull. And we like to use it. This is: people naturally like to feel that they can change (grow) \u2018from inside out\u2019. They naturally loathe being coerced into change \u2018from outside in\u2019.<\/p>\n

So, try to reach people from inside, with a good metaphor, a short anecdote, a question posed to the public. The goal is always: change from inside.<\/u><\/p>\n

The numbers also give an idea of how much goes on continuously and nonconsciously in each person\u2019s brain. Any method (coaching, being coached) that doesn\u2019t take this into account is principally flawed, with merely cosmetic consequences where intended and possibly damaging where not.<\/p>\n

So, never lose sight of the fact that you are mainly talking to the non-conscious of your audience. This can help you to look at them and make contact. A merely superficial contact ain\u2019t big enough. You got to get \u2018deep\u2019. This is also: \u2018personal\u2019. Talk to persons.<\/u><\/p>\n

\u2018Speaking with heart\u2019 is not about the heart in your chest but about what happens within the whole of this 1010<\/sup> and 1016<\/sup>. [see, for instance: \u2018Transcending the Tyranny of Techniques to Speak from the Heart!<\/a>\u2019]<\/p>\n

See yourself mentally as one whole being.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The \u2018tripartite brain\u2019 (reptilian\/mammalian\/human parts) is mainly a myth. It seems logical though, which is why it has been so successful.<\/p>\n

The \u2018reptilian brain\u2019 and \u2018mammalian brain\u2019 are indeed stages in our Darwinian evolution, so much is true. The big HOWEVER lies in the fact that under our human skull, these parts are as alien to our furthest ancestors as is our \u2018human brain\u2019 (conceptual cortex, if you like). In other words: we evolved towards humanity with our complete brains. Moreover, this has been going on in such a unity-of-brain-mode that at present, our whole brain is one big internal interconnectedness. Because of this, there is no fight inside your mind (or that of your audience) between more \u2018primitive\u2019 and more \u2018advanced\u2019 parts unless you make it so. You better not.<\/em><\/p>\n

This may seem rather philosophical, but it has a lot to do with how you perform. The practicality lies in your authenticity.<\/p>\n

So, on stage, be one single person: the un-divided individual that you are. You don\u2019t have to fight against anything within yourself, nor does your audience. You can be friendly<\/em> all the way through. Not just \u2018Mr. Nice Guy\u2019 but completely friendly<\/em>.<\/u><\/p>\n

If you want to change your audience, this is also the best attitude. Do not try to enforce this change. Try to let it come \u2018from inside out\u2019. It\u2019s most efficient and it\u2019s most human.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also related to the following:<\/p>\n

Always see \u2018thinking\u2019 and \u2018feeling\u2019 as friends to each other.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Researchers have for a very long time searched for independent \u2018thinking\u2019 and \u2018feeling\u2019 faculties inside human being, philosophically, psychologically\u2026 They have done the same at brain level. The result is negative: we think with our feelings and we feel with our thoughts. At brain level, though there is some modularity, this is not predominant + the relevant brain parts always<\/u> work together very much. [see: \u2018Cognition and Emotion: a Public-Speaker\u2019s Combination<\/a>\u2019]<\/p>\n

So, never think that your audience easily gets something if you only address their \u2018thinking\u2019 faculty. You don\u2019t need to become emotional, but you have to address their emotions or your message will be forgotten before you exit the stage.<\/u><\/p>\n

Make appropriate use of oxytocin, the \u2018cuddling hormone\u2019<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Yes it is, but it\u2019s also the us-versus-them<\/em> hormone. Primitively, in the brain, caring for one\u2019s children overlaps very much with taking care that strangers do not hurt them. This is of course completely logical. In our human much-more-complex environment though, this leads to many troubles in view of \u2018the enemy\u2019.<\/p>\n

You can use the \u2018we<\/em>-good-them<\/em>-bad\u2019 trick, especially by combining these two in the same argumentation: \u201cThey\u2019re bad because we\u2019re good.\u201d Always see whether this is a morally good thing to do. It\u2019s your choice as a speaker. [see: \u2018The Public-Speaker\u2019s Beyond Us-Them<\/a>\u2019]<\/p>\n

So, as a speaker, make use of the \u2018us\u2019 of your audience. Not doing so would be foolish. Even more, you yourself should be as much as possible \u2018one of us\u2019. Then see how far you can go in making \u2018us\u2019 inclusive. Can \u2018the others\u2019 become \u2018us\u2019? If it\u2019s appropriate, you should nudge your audience towards this. Please use the above trick as little as possible.<\/u><\/p>\n

Use stories as part of an intrinsic way the brain shapes itself.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The story-telling brain is also the daydreaming brain, which happens to be very important in shaping your mind\/brain through re-experiencing the past and rehearsing the future. Thus, stories really are of utmost importance! [see: \u2018The Story-Telling Brainy Network<\/a>\u2019]<\/p>\n

At the same time, because of their mind\/brain shaping goal, it\u2019s eventually not your story that counts. It\u2019s the one of each member of your audience.<\/p>\n

So, try to let your audience have their<\/em> story. For this, your stories don\u2019t need to be long. They do need to give to your audience ample room for building their own ones on the basis, of course, of yours.<\/u><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t impose<\/em> your story. Stick to what you want to get through. Always show that you deem your story important to them<\/em>. Underneath this<\/em><\/strong>, \u2018your\u2019 story becomes interesting because it shows alternatives to theirs. It gives food for growth.<\/p>\n

See public speaking as of utmost importance to the world.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Your impact upon people is enhanced by the group-happening. Your impact can be huge. Thus, your responsibility also.<\/p>\n

The AURELIS take on this: a public speaker should (strive to, always) be very rational (conceptual) AND very \u2018poetic\u2019 (subconceptual). [see: \u2018About \u2018Subconceptual\u2019 (From My PhD Thesis)<\/a>\u2019] Note: both are about \u2018thinking\u2019 as well as \u2018feeling\u2019. This is not<\/u> easy to grasp!<\/p>\n

At least, with brainy insights, we can better discern possible goals and how public speaking may contribute.<\/p>\n

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