Of course, this may all be reciprocal.<\/p>\n
Lady, gentleman<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
These concepts seem to come from an unreal past. Even so, I do want to honor them, specifically in AURELIS-context. To me, they point to deep respect for oneself as total person within<\/em> one\u2019s being a woman or a man \u2013 beyond genetics \u2013 and without any striving for direct ego-gratification.<\/p>\n
I think this has been their deeper meaning from antiquity onwards, although not constantly realized. True culture has always been related. That\u2019s OKAY if it results from inner motivation, say: nature, on which true culture has always been built. In other words: without \u2018depth\u2019, there are no ladies and gentlemen.<\/p>\n
Ideal of beauty<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Female beauty does not depend on any specific here-and-now ideal, but on what she does with such. Therefore, every \u2018lady\u2019 can be beautiful in every culture. Eventually, it\u2019s her choice, her endeavor.<\/p>\n
I see the concept of \u2018lady-ness\u2019 as being intrinsic to this choice. It lies in her attention, her intention, her effort towards beauty. The end value \u2013 as always \u2013 is depth. If some ideal is superficially pursued, it leads to more superficiality. If the same ideal is pursued with depth, it leads to even more depth.<\/p>\n
This is generally the power of \u2018an ideal\u2019. Better not shoot at it but use it in appropriate ways.<\/p>\n
The eye of the beholder<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
It\u2019s nice if a lady searches the being-beautiful in the eye of a gentleman. Please note that \u2018total person\u2019 is already included in both. So, there is no search for one\u2019s own petty benefits. There is in this being-beautiful first and foremost a search for making-the-world-a-better-place.<\/p>\n
What can make it more a better-place than enhancing deep delight?<\/p>\n
Next: admiring<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
may again seem superficial. It\u2019s not if it\u2019s not. It takes effort to appreciate this.<\/p>\n
Finding and being found beautiful. Being glad for being-with-beauty. Conventional beauty is not needed for this, but handling beauty in a good way, is.<\/p>\n
Make no mistake: this handling of beauty is Inner Strength, including the strength to choose in which way it may be sought and to what purpose [see: \u2018What is Elegance?<\/a>\u2019].<\/p>\n
Beauty inspires.<\/p>\n
This beauty by my side<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
For a man, it\u2019s special to have a woman by his side \u2013 in life or just walking down the street \u2013 who values her own beauty. It makes him want to be there, for her, for himself and just plainly \u2019to be\u2019. It\u2019s quite existential. His liking to be-seen with her, is also not necessarily superficial.<\/p>\n
As nothing<\/em> is necessarily superficial.<\/p>\n
This way, I definitely want a lady to make herself beautiful for me.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
It inspires me to be gentle. It\u2019s sexy. It\u2019s her special gift, making me grateful and happy. I don\u2019t feel anything inappropriate in this, in any situation.<\/p>\n
Deeply enjoying each other<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
in self-perpetuating patterns, beauty leads indeed towards a better world.<\/p>\n