Sex and so much more<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, eros in unification is about sex \u2015 the unification of bodies. And also about the lives in which those bodies exist. Then, also about two special cells repeating a game that probably started in the ocean billions of years ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The ocean still lingers on in how a child develops in the female body. The oceanic feeling still lingers on in how two people may experience their unification. This can be seen even at the level of neurotransmitters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The feeling can come with a sea of love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A longing for unification<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In ancient Greece, the erotic longing between a man and a woman was deemed to result from a feeling of separation in both and the mutual desire to resolve this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Greeks had something to go. Another take is that erotic desire<\/a> transcends any separate existence. The desire is unified to the core \u2015 the realization being only the enactment of what is already there. This realization can be physical. It can also be symbolic. One can find the latter, here and there, now and then, profoundly within a religious context, where it can also be \u2018physically symbolic\u2019 sometimes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Erotic mysticism<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you, modern person, think this is unreal, then I invite you to explore the Internet on \u2018minne\u2019 and \u2018Hadewych,\u2019 the medieval mystic from Brabant \u2015 where I was poised to be born centuries later. Hadewych was a prolific writer of exquisite poetry in which she sang about the love (\u2018minne\u2019) between God and human \u2015 involving body and mind and the desire to unify not only in the afterlife but also passionately in the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She was not the only mystic who did so. No wonder some had problems with overly scholastic theologians. Nevertheless, it shows us one certainty:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The erotic desire for unification is deeply human.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Although not always validated, this is hugely important in any sexual act. Without it, there is only the purely hormonal \u2013 unlovingly chemical \u2013 doing. One can talk of rape<\/a>: a person\u2019s temporary high at the possible expense of another\u2019s profoundly meaningful suffering. Many people don\u2019t know how deep this can go because, well, they don\u2019t understand human depth<\/a> in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n On a cheerful note, the unification can be more exciting than the sex itself. For reasons unknown to me (cultural? \u2015 personal?), I think \u2018female\u2019 first, but \u2018male\u2019 can be equally involved. Nevertheless, for the guys, it may be specifically important to take a deep unification look at the following.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Foreplay<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is not a play that comes before the serious stuff. It is the serious stuff, starting sometime before penetration \u2013 if any \u2013 and going on the whole time of \u2018intercourse,\u2019 ending sometime after the start of penetration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s better, therefore, to see foreplay as the invitation to become erotically one. Hadewych\u2019s poetry is one way. Any other invitation can be another way \u2015 in clothing, movements, talk, anything. Even, as just indicated, in the penetration itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Do you want me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Do you need me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Do you love me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ah.<\/p>\n