{"id":13409,"date":"2023-10-24T17:11:49","date_gmt":"2023-10-24T17:11:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=13409"},"modified":"2023-10-24T17:21:45","modified_gmt":"2023-10-24T17:21:45","slug":"whats-in-it-for-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/cognitive-insights\/whats-in-it-for-me","title":{"rendered":"What\u2019s in It for Me?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

At least half the world turns around this \u2014 no circumventing it. Therefore, it may be easier to change the \u2018me.\u2019<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

However, of course, the \u2018me\u2019 doesn\u2019t readily want to be changed from the outside.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, supporting the \u2018me\u2019 in changing from the inside out is recommended.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which is mental growth<\/a> \u2014 coaching, everywhere<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also in daily life, work, and play. So, how does one support someone else in such growth? There is no time for a workshop, let alone a retreat or a lifetime of growth, which would be ideal if possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ve got an hour, maybe.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But you\u2019ve got a lifetime of yourself and many growth occasions if you are open to them \u2014 such as during this hour. Every encounter is an occasion to grow and let grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, if you give someone else an hour of growth, that may be one of many, or it may be the start of something excellent and beautiful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ego, friend or foe?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

With little time, this is the main challenge. \u201cWhat\u2019s in it for me\u201d depends on how it is received and who is receiving toward what.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To ego-foe, growth is scary. To ego-friend, growth is the first prize.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, make ego your friend without succumbing to its whims. Your own ego is crucial. If it aligns with the other in a hard way, what you will get is a more entrenched ego on both sides.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anyway, you will not get rid of ego.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, take the ego with you and proceed together. Transcend it. If you fight it, you lose \u2013 time and again \u2013 and get bitter. Eventually, you lose your health, your goal, and maybe your life. I\u2019ve seen it happen more than once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your goal is worthwhile, you should take it as your responsibility to attain it \u2014 therefore, to put your own ego aside for a starter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself, \u201cWhat\u2019s in it for me?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A crucial question. Is it about your goal as such, or is it about you who must attain the goal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please don\u2019t take your answer for granted. Any ego is versatile and creative, showing itself in unexpected ways, fooling you as a total person by making you believe it is you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, yes and no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wanted: humility<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Humus = ground. You can make your ego the ground upon which your total self can grow. The ground is important enough, but it is not what it\u2019s about. It\u2019s not you \u2014 total self. What\u2019s in it for your ground should be you. Then, you can show this to the other who will respond \u2014 not perhaps with likewise humility\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

but at least with some inkling upon which you can work further,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n