Science and setting<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If possible, the end of life should not be set in a clearly unscientific setting. Even if this is most easy and comfortable, getting it scientifically correct can lead to additional possibilities of depth that are very much desired.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Without exaggeration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If there is no choice, depth comes first.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Science (common sense on steroids) is for people, not people for science. Especially at the end of life, the human experience should prevail. The symbolic setting can help very much in making the experience profoundly meaningful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Still, there is no need for any tension between science and setting. Any such tension would be inappropriate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Science can be warm and friendly. It mainly depends on the questions asked. The fact that it sometimes appears cold and hard speaks for itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The end of life is a good time to let go.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Letting go even of what it is that one should let go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s about the ego, of course. But in what sense? After a lifetime of happenings and experience, this may be a good time to \u2018enter a new phase\u2019 in which the ego, if not done before, can let go. Even if slightly, it\u2019s worth it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThere will be life after death. It will be a good life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Having this experience, one way or another, is perhaps the ultimate act of Compassion. However, it\u2019s not just an ego act. It\u2019s a total-self act.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also a dying person has some responsibility, if only out of self-respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Letting go = coming to terms with this.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Again: without knowing in what sense, if you like. Getting into the beyond is done by getting into the beyond \u2015 not holding on to what has been.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Thus, being present (Present!) with a dying person is the best gift \u2015 also if it\u2019s yourself. Not \u2018just\u2019 being present, but entirely, openly, daringly, sweetly, and infinitely patiently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Much so as if you might be the dying one or another one, and it doesn\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It doesn\u2019t matter in letting go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019re good.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s always OK.<\/p>\n\n\n\n