{"id":1262,"date":"2018-05-27T19:36:29","date_gmt":"2018-05-27T19:36:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=1262"},"modified":"2018-05-27T19:36:29","modified_gmt":"2018-05-27T19:36:29","slug":"beyond-carrot-and-stick","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/motivation\/beyond-carrot-and-stick","title":{"rendered":"Beyond \u2018Carrot and Stick\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Carrot and stick have a long history. Going beyond, one can foresee a future based on a more realistic view on human being.<\/h3>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Reward and punishment<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>are efficient means to make someone comply to rules and authority. So has always been thought and taught. Reality may have been quite more complicated. In the face of the carrot-and-stick authority, the \u2018subordinate\u2019 quickly learns how to take advantage: by letting the former think it works. Because if he thinks it doesn\u2019t, more punishment and maybe less reward may follow. Thus, <em>within<\/em> the illusion of the authoritarian, the subordinate frequently gets his own way. Or:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>in the illusionary world, both perform their act on stage.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Manipulation from both sides. At the deeper level, non-consciously or partly consciously \u2013 as perfect accomplices \u2013 they perform their parts of another act, the one on which the stakes depend of what is really happening in present and near future.<\/p>\n<p>Did we know? Consciously not, unconsciously yes. This is beyond guilt. Also and at the same time, the \u2018subordinate\u2019 may act out his resentment in other ways. Much may be happening in parallel. It frequently does.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>From a mechanical view<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Carrot and stick are straightforward. They come from a straightforward view on human being:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Push it to here and it will go to here.<\/li>\n<li>Draw it from there and it will go to there.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Easy enough?<\/p>\n<p>People of course are <em>much<\/em> less straightforward than this. Such simplicity is a comprehensible chimera but a chimera nevertheless.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>What lies beyond carrot and stick<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>being within the circle of the caring one. The mother cares for her child through experiencing it as part of herself. If in the mammalian world she doesn\u2019t do so, the child will die. So for the child it\u2019s of utmost importance to be accepted., to be \u2018part of the mother\u2019. One could say: to feel loved.<\/p>\n<p>This then widens to kin, family, group\u2026 In the human case also to culture and even beyond. All the way through, it\u2019s important for the individual to \u2018belong\u2019 and to feel loved. This is accomplished through being \u2018approved\u2019 in one way or another. Human flexibility is very huge. At the same time, people remain very sensitive to approval \u2013 belonging \u2013 versus disapproval \u2013 being ostracized.<\/p>\n<p>At the very same time, people remain very sensitive to\u2026 love and feeling loved.<\/p>\n<p>This is generally <em>NOT<\/em> instrumental. Therefore it lies \u2018beyond carrot and stick\u2019. Perhaps still surprisingly, one can conclude that:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>carrot and stick purely by themselves (as push or pull) are most probably hardly effective.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Instead, they only <em>appear<\/em> effective because they are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>an immediate communication: this is right; that is wrong<\/li>\n<li>a possible vehicle for \u2018love\u2019. They are the vase, not the water in the vase; they are form, not content.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The content is \u2018deeper meaning\u2019. This is the effective part. It can be hugely powerful. One can see this in the degree that people can be so highly culture-impregnated as to feel the own culture as \u2018sanctified\u2019 beyond doubt, while seeing other cultures as incomprehensibly alien and \u2018bad\u2019. Soldiers give their lives for such. Jihadists forget human dignity.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>How to reach for the beyond.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Insight and practice. \u2018Love\u2019 is not for free. It demands a lot of work while not knowing there will be any reward at all.<\/p>\n<p>Then it comes without your knowing what it is a reward of.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s OK.<\/p>\n<p>In the OK lies the way beyond.<\/p>\n<div data-object_id=\"1262\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarkwrap cbxwpbkmarkwrap_no_cat cbxwpbkmarkwrap-post \"><a  data-redirect-url=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1262\"  data-display-label=\"0\" data-show-count=\"0\" data-bookmark-label=\" \"  data-bookmarked-label=\" \"  data-loggedin=\"0\" data-type=\"post\" data-object_id=\"1262\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarktrig  cbxwpbkmarktrig-button-addto\" title=\"Bookmark This\" href=\"#\"><span class=\"cbxwpbkmarktrig-label\"  style=\"display:none;\" > <\/span><\/a> <div  data-type=\"post\" data-object_id=\"1262\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarkguestwrap\" id=\"cbxwpbkmarkguestwrap-1262\"><div class=\"cbxwpbkmarkguest-message\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"cbxwpbkmarkguesttrig_close\"><\/a><h3 class=\"cbxwpbookmark-title cbxwpbookmark-title-login\">Please login to bookmark<\/h3>\n\t\t<form name=\"loginform\" id=\"loginform\" action=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/wp-login.php\" method=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-username\">\n\t\t\t\t<label for=\"user_login\">Username or Email Address<\/label>\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"text\" name=\"log\" id=\"user_login\" class=\"input\" value=\"\" size=\"20\" \/>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-password\">\n\t\t\t\t<label for=\"user_pass\">Password<\/label>\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"password\" name=\"pwd\" id=\"user_pass\" class=\"input\" value=\"\" size=\"20\" \/>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-remember\"><label><input name=\"rememberme\" type=\"checkbox\" id=\"rememberme\" value=\"forever\" \/> Remember Me<\/label><\/p>\n\t\t\t<p class=\"login-submit\">\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"submit\" name=\"wp-submit\" id=\"wp-submit\" class=\"button button-primary\" value=\"Log In\" \/>\n\t\t\t\t<input type=\"hidden\" name=\"redirect_to\" value=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1262\" \/>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/form><\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Carrot and stick have a long history. 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