Fundamentally<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n With some openness, everybody can feel that in-depth wishes and desires somewhat differ from what shows at first sight. For instance, attaining a slightly deeper level during coaching may already be eye-opening and healing in some sense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In many cases, the picture becomes drastically more pronounced when going deeper into one\u2019s non-conscious yet meaningful mindscape. As a rule of thumb, the deeper one goes, the more (\u2018deeply\u2019) meaningful it becomes, and at the same time, the less easily graspable. Of course, there are all kinds of colors and shades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In AURELIS coaching, reaching what the coachee profoundly wants\/needs \u2013 not therefore conceptually but rather subconceptually<\/a> \u2013 is seen as what the whole endeavor is frequently about. An obstacle is that people may have difficulty acknowledging within themselves the situation just described.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Deep motivation<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n As in my book Deep Motivation<\/a>, the eventual source of any motivation lies in-depth. What grows above the surface has its roots in the ground \u2015 a fundamentally different milieu. Not realizing (nor living up to) this is what I call \u2018inner dissociation.\u2019 In such a state, what one wants and deeply needs may be \u2013 as said \u2013 fundamentally different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cYou must know what you want\u201d is therefore only partially relevant if not going deeply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Huge challenges, also in people of good intention<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Inner dissociation secondarily leads to many personal<\/a> and even geopolitical problems<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n More primarily, and more generally, it leads to people wanting to achieve what they don\u2019t need and profoundly needing what they don\u2019t even want to accomplish on the surface. This is not because of their bad intentions but mainly because, unfortunately, there is a lack of insight into subconceptual processing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The root of the problem is indeed the root of the problem, and it goes very deep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As a matter of fact, the result is immense dissatisfaction \u2015 the feeling of not being heard, not being reckoned with, not being respected. Eventually, this is also precisely the case: In-depth, people are not being heard, etc. The inner dissociation (in others) prevents it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Divides<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The feeling of \u2018divide between politics and the people\u2019 \u2013 even in functional democracies without an overload of corruption \u2013 is one of many natural consequences. Politicians of good intention can come across as deluded, uncaring, or dangerous because of the divide between what people deeply need and superficially want (and say they want\/need). Unfortunately, not all politicians are depth psychologists.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another divide is business-related: between what motivates employees and what is supposed (by their leaders) to motivate them. Just questioning the employees may clarify what they want but not what they deeply need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As a third example, divides between cultures can be more pronounced if people from different cultures are oblivious to their deeper personal needs. This prevents them from seeing how other cultures<\/a> have different ways to (try to) fulfill these profoundly similar needs \u2015 even more so since concrete cultures, as interdependent entities, do so primarily for themselves<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n From burnout to burning<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Really wanting what one also deeply needs aligns a person\u2019s deep motivation in a direction that prevents burnout and can lead to an immense feeling of flow \u2015 no drugs needed, just oneself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s that simple, in principle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In all its profound complexity, AURELIS coaching<\/a> is about this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I dare say it is even pretty unique in this.<\/p>\n