Please read Weak, Hard, Strong, Gentle<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Misinterpretations may make the dealing pretty challenging.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A hard-weak person is defensive by nature. His whole environment and worldview are tainted in a hard-weak fashion \u2015 therefore, very anxiety-provoking in many ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Since he projects hardness-weakness, he gets hardness-weakness in return, and becomes more so in a self-perpetuating pattern. Moreover, he may seek out hard-weak acquaintances who, for instance, see enemies in the same directions \u2015 or even create their enemies<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This leads to much anxiety and aggression, frequently outside of conscious awareness. Does this look challenging? Indeed, it does, and it is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being afraid of the \u2018weakness\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A hard-weak person can easily misunderstand gentleness for weakness and be very scared of this so-interpreted weakness as dangerous, especially in situations where some \u2018enemy\u2019 is at bay. For instance, a virus, another part of the world, or even \u2018an acquaintance who will not understand.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because the strong-gentle person isn\u2019t afraid to show gentleness, he may offer much of it. This gets interpreted by the hard-weak person as a hazardous amount of weakness in the face of the enemy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being hurt by the \u2018hardness\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A hard-weak person interprets any showing of strength as hardness, to which he gets into defense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because the strong-gentle person isn\u2019t weary of showing strength, he may quickly appear aggressive to the hard-weak person who responds with counter-aggression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n An example: responsibility versus guilt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sadly, this is a frequent and ubiquitous example.<\/p>\n\n\n\n