Sure it hurts<\/a>. Don\u2019t let this text make it hurt less but, perhaps, differently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Impermanence of being<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Grieving over a deceased loved one is principally grieving over loss. The loved one has lost life. The grieving one has lost living experiences with the deceased. This all shows the impermanence of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One can grieve over any loss of experiences, any part of life, any meaningful thing or person. More to the point however, one grieves over what it symbolizes<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Life<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Life is about change. There is no life without the impermanence of every moment. We might thus grieve over every moment were it not for the experience of permanence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, there is also no life without this experience<\/em> of being a \u2013 temporarily \u2013 permanent living being. Something needs to be <\/em>if it wants to live<\/em>, even if the being is basically one of permanent change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When the change stops, the being stops.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Symbol of impermanence<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Grief transforms the \u2018object of loss\u2019 (which can be a person) into a symbol of impermanence. This symbol touches the heart. As a result, emotions flow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nothing material can do this \u2015 only symbols.<\/p>\n\n\n\n