{"id":1068,"date":"2018-05-03T17:41:56","date_gmt":"2018-05-03T17:41:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=1068"},"modified":"2018-05-04T10:59:28","modified_gmt":"2018-05-04T10:59:28","slug":"is-aurelis-about-acceptance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/aurelis\/is-aurelis-about-acceptance","title":{"rendered":"Acceptance?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Within AURELIS, \u2018acceptance\u2019 is about your total self including a lot of <u>non<\/u>conscious processing. There is no breaking down, nor ignoring, nor avoiding.<\/h3>\n<blockquote><p><strong>AURELIS is precisely <em><u>not<\/u><\/em> about avoidance.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>This deserves to be emphasized because \u2018acceptance\u2019 frequently gets such connotation. In AURELIS, there is no avoidance .<\/p>\n<p>So, if you have an annoying issue or a problem \u2013 such as a psychological or psychosomatic symptom \u2013 it is recommended that you \u2018accept\u2019 it, and in this also your total self <em>and<\/em> your will to change.<\/p>\n<p>In order to do so, one needs to \u2018accept\u2019 that a substantial part of mind is nonconscious, yet this contains much meaningful stuff and is quite influential upon everything consciously experienced. This is not merely an intellectual enterprise. It\u2019s something in need to be <em>lived through<\/em>.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>VERY friendly to yourself<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Your \u2018deeper self\u2019 (syn.: \u2018nonconscious\u2019) is your best friend <em>if<\/em> you invite it and support it in the best way possible. This encompasses <em>not<\/em> ignoring the lesser elements: the tension or aggression or frustration that may be present already for a long time. Being friendly to your &#8216;deeper self&#8217; lies in an ever being ready to communicate with it, to listen and to, well, <em>accept<\/em> whatever you hear as worthwhile to be taken into account.<\/p>\n<p>There might be some jewel hidden in a \u2018lesser element\u2019, or better: there might be part of <em>your very life<\/em> in it. You don\u2019t want to throw <em>that<\/em> away, nor to break it down.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Acceptance and communication in a self-perpetuating pattern:<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>You can <em>communicate<\/em> in the best way when you <em>accept<\/em> as partner, on equal basis: not \u2018indistinguishably equal\u2019, but eventually of equal worth.<\/li>\n<li>You can <em>accept<\/em> when you get to know through proper <em>communication<\/em>: listening to whatever may come even if you don\u2019t like it so much.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Deep communication leads to deep acceptance and vice versa.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Don\u2019t aggressively fight the symptom.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Aggression = trying to get rid of any symptom as if it were an enemy, something to kill or take prisoner so you can get on\u2026 with what?<\/p>\n<p>Avoidance is also a kind of aggression. In AURELIS, you don\u2019t avoid the \u00a0\u2013 psychosomatic \u2013 symptom. You go <em>through<\/em> the symptom. Otherwise said:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>you let the symptom dissolve into you. <\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Not breaking down.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Not throwing away.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Giving (deep) attention.<\/p>\n<p>You cannot accept something if you don\u2019t know it. You cannot know it if you don\u2019t give it (deep) attention.<\/p>\n<p>Moreover, <em>giving<\/em> attention \u2013 to yourself \u2013 also means that you <em>receive<\/em> attention. If it\u2019s really deep, then you get something really valuable and that can also be experienced as such. Accepting yourself this way is\u00a0 energizing.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>AURELIS acceptance = acknowledging that you can trust yourself<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>even in depth. This is: spontaneity, letting go, living in the here and now. Your deeper self is not a fountain of bad things \u2013 as Freud would have it and actually a very big part of Western culture.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>AUREL<u>IS<\/u> ends on IS: <u>I<\/u>nner <u>S<\/u>trength.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>AURELIS acceptance is valuing and heightening your inner strength. Thus: not losing any part of yourself (breaking or throwing out). 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