{"id":10640,"date":"2022-11-04T11:17:02","date_gmt":"2022-11-04T11:17:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=10640"},"modified":"2022-11-05T09:24:55","modified_gmt":"2022-11-05T09:24:55","slug":"deconstruction-as-therapeutic-mindset","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/coaching\/deconstruction-as-therapeutic-mindset","title":{"rendered":"Concept-Deconstruction as Therapeutic Mindset"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h3>Meant here is the deconstruction of concepts through being critical about the meaning of concept-denoting terms in a way that the subconceptual becomes more apparent.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>See: <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=1424\">conceptual<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=1420\">subconceptual<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Technique or mindset?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a technique, this constructive deconstruction might be one that transcends (deconstructs) techniques themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even so, it\u2019s better not to see it as a technique but a mindset: to invite deconstruction within the client from the inside out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Deconstruction is the natural consequence of finding depth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It naturally happens when one comes closer to concepts or to oneself. Distance rather shows the bigger picture without intimate details. Coming closer, the details may start showing that there is also something lying behind \u2015 even behind the behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Getting there, depth reveals itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>This may be scary to people.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It may make one anxious who isn\u2019t used to encountering depth within himself or even tries to run away from it. The more one lives in an <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=2271\">innerly dissociated<\/a> state, the more anxiety may be provoked by experiencing depth inside oneself \u2015 as the unknown, thereby uncontrollable. Coming from inside by itself doesn\u2019t make it less scary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is what C.G. Jung called one\u2019s \u2018shadow,\u2019 pointing to the importance of integrating the same towards what he called \u2018individuation.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Yet, everywhere<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Deconstructing concepts shows that this behind-the-veil is not seldom. It can be found all over the place. <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=10302\">Depth is everywhere<\/a>. The term <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=4322\">constructionism<\/a> is used to denote that almost any concept can be seen as a construction that starts from something more fundamental. As a matter of fact, the human brain is illuminating in this, especially at the level of <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=4629\">mental-neuronal patterns<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a stark sociocultural example, is abortion the killing of babies or an act of healthcare and women&#8217;s free choice? Then, one can delve into the meaning of these terms\/concepts: killing, babies, healthcare, and free choice \u2015 finding layers of depth in any of them, thereby gradually transcending conceptual definitions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a coach, one needs to take care not to overwhelm any coachee with his own depth. One should not exaggerate in trying to constructively deconstruct every possible concept. Conversely, the exercise is interesting and may occasionally even be necessary for healing \/ personal growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Deconstruction should never be imposed. It should always be present as a mindset and an invitation. It is thereby compatible with a mindset of autosuggestion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Lisa<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Both \u2018mindsets\u2019 can be practically realized by\/through <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=10620\">Lisa<\/a>, probably at least as well as by a human coach\/therapist. Engrained in Lisa must therefore be the possibility to cope with a small degree of shadowy anxiety in the user or to know when to refer the user to human support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Much attention goes to this, especially with users who initially show a certain degree of free-floating anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Relaxing the purely conceptual<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This sounds less dramatic \u2015 as it is in almost any case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Relaxing the conceptual is a kind of diminishing inner dissociation. It brings the user closer to his <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=4055\">Inner Strength<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Inviting the user from the inside out toward this by relaxing the conceptual is congruent with the AURELIS project as a whole. It is all contained in the name itself: <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/aurelis-is\">AU-REL-IS<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Socrates<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The above may remind one of the <a href=\"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog?p=8881\">Socratic method<\/a> \u2013 through Socratic dialogue \u2013 of de- and re-constructing what the other person initially thought to be certain of. Time and again, Socrates showed that the other person knew less than he \u2013 somewhat arrogantly, in many cases \u2013 thought before starting the dialogue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Socrates\u2019 admonition was to \u2018know thyself.\u2019 That is very much to the point. I would add one element: \u201cKnow thy total self\u201d \u2015 conceptually and subconceptually, at least each coaching a bit more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Integration through relaxation<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Relaxation is a worthy goal by itself. As Socrates already put his finger on, Inner Strength (the potential of his &#8216;daimoon&#8217;) is optimally reached through a subsequent integration that is more constructive and more congruent with the user as a total person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many people are stuck in some inner mind configuration for a long time \u2015 even lifelong. Many psychological problems \u2013 even major ones such as intense addictions, depression, or schizophrenia \u2013 may be seen as stemming from this directly or from desperately trying to get beyond it, thereby starting a never-ending self-enhancing fight with oneself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Re-integration may and should help in this.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ideally, this happens when the problems aren\u2019t too big already. We now know that many deeply psychological problems start at a relatively young age. 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