Read about ubiquitous depth<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In therapy\/coaching, attaining lasting change is a challenge.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Theory goes toward a genetically determined stable state<\/em> whereto any change (from this state) returns to it after a while. Therefore, skeptical researchers see external change \u2013 of environment, regulations, imposed habits, chronic medication \u2013 as necessary for any durable change. Indeed, as a matter of fact, such factors can bring lasting change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But there is another option that remains invisible this way. Being invisible is not enough to say it is impossible \u2015 as is frequently done in the therapeutic field. More problematic even is the contention that the surface is all there is, while each part of the surface itself comes from deep inside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Lasting change is challenging if any possible lasting change comes from somewhere else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nature\u2019s example: growth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nature is illuminating in many cases, but especially this one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A seed turns into a mighty oak \u2015 called \u2018growth.\u2019 The oak seed doesn\u2019t turn into a cat or a human being. The lesson is that growth leads to lasting change. Any other change is very challenging. Genetics don’t jeopardize growth, but any other change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, for a person to change, it\u2019s essential to look for the direction of growth. The human being is specifically flexible in how to attain this growth and toward where it can evolve. Still, growth in one way or another needs to be sought. Merely diminishing symptoms is not necessarily growth-oriented. Unsurprisingly, a merely symptomatic cure is frequently not durable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In coaching<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Insight into what may be one\u2019s true goal as a total person is a primary endeavor of any AURELIS coaching by a human coach or Lisa. This true goal is naturally growth-related, as in the analogy of the oak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The mere diminishment of symptoms can be a surface-level goal behind which lies something more profound. Therefore, removing the symptom (or trying to) isn\u2019t necessarily enough for any coaching to be called successful, even when the coachee may deem it so. The symptom may have an implicit, yet meaningfully mind-related reason for being present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We all know that, don\u2019t we?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then why are there so many who apparently don\u2019t?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I see some deeper longing for control in this, leading to non-hearing or worse: active basic denial<\/a>. To acknowledge a deeper source of activity \u2013 mental-neuronal patterns<\/a> \u2013 is to recognize that the surface level is mainly a surface that moves upon the instigation of depth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n An AURELIS coach needs to know better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A question of identification<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The more one identifies with the surface level, the more one gets into the lack-of-control problem, which can by itself lead to stress and other mental issues. These are problems of inner dissociation<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The more one learns to identify with total self \u2013 through insights and experiences \u2013 the more one can mentally grow from inner dissociation to a state of Compassion, basically<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Compassion brings lasting change<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Indeed, in Compassion, the elements come together that lead to mental growth \u2015 thus, lasting change. Eventually, it may become clear that there is no other way. AURELIS coaching, being Open therapy<\/a>, is meant to open the doors of the coachee. This should be clarified to every coachee and mutually agreed before the start, since it is a specific direction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n At least, through this, lasting change becomes a personal choice.<\/p>\n