{"id":1040,"date":"2018-04-26T20:17:57","date_gmt":"2018-04-26T20:17:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/?p=1040"},"modified":"2018-10-15T12:09:45","modified_gmt":"2018-10-15T12:09:45","slug":"inside-values-we-find-pain-and-joy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aurelis.org\/blog\/motivation\/inside-values-we-find-pain-and-joy","title":{"rendered":"Inside Values, We Find Pain and Joy"},"content":{"rendered":"

In our values, we find our worth and deepest meaning, our \u2018energy\u2019 which is no more than deep motivation. Our values are<\/u> our morality. Valued gain for pain and source of joy.<\/h3>\n

Inner values lead one to voluntarily accept pain.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

For instance: the soldier fighting for his country, the mother giving birth, the athlete going to his limits\u2026<\/p>\n

The ancient Greeks already saw as the core of leadership: to instill in others a \u2018voluntary obedience\u2019 towards taking risks, accepting hardship, going to war if needed. A good leader was able to, and still can do this through good \u2018value management\u2019. One can also see in this the core of \u2013 deep \u2013 motivation. Values are<\/em> deep. Drawn towards their values, people may transcend mere egotism.<\/p>\n

True values are \u2018vertical\u2019<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The pain that comes as consequence of realizing one\u2019s true value(s) is mostly not felt as the \u2018pain\u2019 for which no deeper meaning is felt, even if it\u2019s objectively the same pain. This has been observed in many circumstances, also dire ones such as war or a concentration camp. This is because such values have a \u2018vertical\u2019 aspect: they are a gateway between conceptual thinking (your usual thoughts) and the deeper (nonconscious, subconceptual) layers of your mind. This is \u2018energetic\u2019 stuff indeed \u2013 no esoteric explanation needed.<\/p>\n

In present-day society, we have some trouble with this<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A pervading idea is that people should live without pain or discomfort. This has almost the status of an \u2018upper value\u2019, although one that is quite unnatural, artificial, blind. The contradiction is obvious. If this value is pursued relentlessly, this goes at the detriment of\u2026 all other value.<\/p>\n

In our values, we also find joy<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Pursuing one\u2019s values brings joy, not only in attaining end results but also in the act itself. Possibly and very broadly seen, it\u2019s even the only<\/em> source of joy. This is:<\/p>\n

the feeling that gets built up in our brain\/mind when pursuing values<\/p>\n

=<\/p>\n

what we denote as \u2018joy\u2019.<\/p>\n

This may be superficial joy (\u2018pleasure\u2019) as related to rather superficial values, or deep joy (happiness, \u2018eudaimonia\u2019 for the connoisseurs) as related to deeper values. Or of course \u2013 in many cases \u2013 a mixture of both.<\/p>\n

A recipe for happiness: find your true values and act upon them.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Nature likes both: pleasure and happiness:<\/p>\n